There are many things we take for granted and don't even try to question. At birth we are like a blank slate, with enormous potential and a lot to learn. However, little by little we are appropriating the culture and this also means that we are precluding ourselves from a world of possibilities. In fact, often the little things, the ones we take for granted, become obstacles that prevent us from fully developing our potential.The problem is that once we adopt certain thought patterns and adhere to certain beliefs, it will be very difficult for us to get rid of them. So, in the end, we end up living in a universe of very limited possibilities compared to what we could have achieved, learned or done.In fact, one of the limiting beliefs, which are never questioned, is to think that problems they need to be solved.
Solving a problem means first of all assuming that there is an obstacle. When we realize that there is something preventing us from reaching our goal or disturbing our stability, we feel bad, we feel frustrated and angry. However, those emotions, far from helping to deal effectively with the situation, harm us. Not only do they make us feel worse, they also affect our judgment and our ability to find a good solution. Solving a problem also means that we must remove the obstacle as soon as possible from the path, to continue or to return as quickly as possible to the initial state, which was probably that comfort zone in which we felt safe.However, considering problems as mere obstacles implies a very narrow vision, which does not facilitate personal development. Instead, understanding problems as something to be overcome, as challenges that help us transform, involves a radical change in the way we see and approach the world.
In reality, it is a vision that Western society has transmitted to us, a company that promotes competitive and individualistic values, which focuses on achieving personal goals, regardless of the group and the interests and needs of others. Therefore, everything around us is designed to make us pursue specific goals and assume that everything in between are obstacles. the problems will no longer be mere obstacles, but opportunities for growth. When we no longer have the obsession with having to get to a certain point as soon as possible, but we intend to enjoy the journey and make the most of it, problems take on another dimension, they become opportunities. the vision of Chinese entrepreneurs is particularly enlightening. These people are not afraid of competition, on the contrary, they believe that it is healthy and useful. They do not see any other entrepreneur as an obstacle to their business, but as an opportunity to improve their business; competition becomes an incentive for change, and if sales drop, they don't blame others, but wonder what they can do to reverse this effect and grow again.
Think of the problems in terms of challenges it's not just a change of terms. Substituting "solve" for "overcoming" is not just a transformation at the level of language, it implies a much deeper level of change in attitude and worldview. people who cultivate resilience, who know how to face adversity and come out of it strengthened, are not the strongest or the best prepared, but those who face problems as if they were challenges, convinced that the situation will allow them to grow. comfort zone, but when they finally get over the problem, they grow up. Thus, the comfort zone in which they feel comfortable becomes bigger and bigger and there will be fewer things that will hurt or make them feel uncomfortable. of people and asked to prepare a speech. They were told they would be rated for their performance and the voltage generated. Meanwhile, their vital functions were monitored. Interestingly, some people presented the activity as a challenge, in a positive light, while others presented it as a problem. Psychologists found that presenting stressful situations as challenges not only improved participants' overall performance, but it also allowed them to better control their stress. In them, indicators such as heart rate and blood pressure quickly returned to normal, while in the group that regarded activity as a problem, these indicators remained well beyond normal limits. overcoming a problem means not only solving it, but also learning the lesson. It is not simply about moving on, but integrating it into our history, making sense of what happened and incorporating it into our life experience. In this way we enrich ourselves as people. Therefore, it is less likely that we will return to stumble twice on the same stone, because we have acquired a much more complete picture of the situation and, therefore, of the factors that led us to it.
Problems are not external factors, but they always say something about us, problems do not exist outside of who we are. Indeed, what in some stages of life may seem like a problem of gigantic proportions, because we do not have the psychological resources to deal with it, in the future can even turn into a situation that makes us smile. external obstacle, but the expression of some fear, insecurity, lack or a limitation of one's own. From this point of view, the problem is not a stone that we can easily remove from the path without thinking about it, but it is a signal that warns us of a much deeper deficit and, therefore, an opportunity to transform ourselves into stronger people.
There are many things we take for granted and don't even try to question. At birth we are like a blank slate, with enormous potential and a lot to learn. However, little by little we are appropriating the culture and this also means that we are precluding ourselves from a world of possibilities. In fact, often the little things, the ones we take for granted, become obstacles that prevent us from fully developing our potential.The problem is that once we adopt certain thought patterns and adhere to certain beliefs, it will be very difficult for us to get rid of them. So, in the end, we end up living in a universe of very limited possibilities compared to what we could have achieved, learned or done.In fact, one of the limiting beliefs, which are never questioned, is to think that problems they need to be solved.
