Life is too short to waste it worrying excessively about what other people think. When we feel confident and project an image of confidence and serenity, it is other people who want to be on our side. Conversely, when we desperately seek their approval we turn into characterless people who don't know what they want whose happiness depends on others.
Therefore, it is important to pay attention to the small signs that indicate that we do not love ourselves enough, that we do not accept ourselves as we are, perhaps because we feel inadequate or think we are not capable enough.
But remember that for others to accept you you must first accept yourself, because others love you you must love yourself first. Work begins at home.
A person who does not accept himself cannot love himself, and a person who does not love himself cannot love
1. You don't feel free to be who you are. If you don't think you are capable enough, you probably don't feel free to show yourself as you are because you are ashamed, as a result, you consume an enormous amount of energy trying to be someone you are not, just to please others and gain their approval.
2. You don't spend time alone. If you always need to surround yourself with people, because you are not well alone, it is likely that deep down you feel uncomfortable with yourself and it bothers you what you see when you look inside yourself. If so, you need to learn to appreciate and enjoy your company.
3. You don't express your ideas. If you always conform to the opinions of others, even when you disagree with them, a lack of self-esteem is likely lurking deep inside. Maybe you think your ideas are not interesting enough to be considered, or you are afraid to express them.
4. You don't "pamper" yourself enough. Inside us lives a small child who needs to be constantly comforted and pampered. Every time you pamper yourself and satisfy a little whim you are telling yourself that you consider yourself precious, worthy of these little satisfactions, if you don't, it's probably because you don't feel good about yourself.
5. You don't appreciate your successes. Very few manage to win the Nobel Prize, but each person is precious and contributes in some way to the environment in which they live. If you can't see your results, it's likely because you don't love yourself enough and tend to belittle everything you do.
6. You treat yourself too hard. Criticizing ourselves is good, it allows us to discover our mistakes and grow. However, being overly harsh in judging ourselves, to the point of denigrating ourselves, simply indicates that we don't love ourselves and punish ourselves for being who we are.
7. You don't heal your body. The body is our temple, we shouldn't be over obsessed with having a perfect figure, but we shouldn't neglect physical activity and diet either. Lack of personal care often indicates a deeper lack of love, it says we don't think we are worthy enough to put in the time and effort.
8. No reasons yourself. We can all fail, but the difference between those who achieve their goals and those who stop halfway is self-confidence and the ability to self-motivate when things go wrong. Of course, it's not about becoming a naive optimist, it's about finding those keys that motivate us and learning how to use them when we need an extra dose of motivation.
9. You don't trust yourself. Self-confidence is essential for developing healthy self-esteem. People who don't love each other enough don't even trust their abilities and frequently despise each other. So, if you often tell yourself that you can't do it and that you aren't capable, these are warning signs and indicate that you need to change your relationship with yourself.
10. You don't open up to others. People who don't love each other enough usually struggle to open up to others and compromise in relationships. Because they think they don't deserve love, they lock themselves up so that no one can discover this lack of self-esteem.
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