What a misfortune! How many times have you said this in recent times? After you've done your best to achieve your goals, something happens and suddenly success slips out of your hands. It is something that has happened to all of us and will continue to happen. However, thinking that there is good and bad luck makes us assume the role of the victim and, without a doubt, does not help us achieve our goals.It all depends on the "locus of control"
In psychology locus of control is the definition that is used to indicate the way in which we understand life events, attributing them to our actions and decisions or, on the contrary, to factors external to our will.
There is an internal locus of control, typical of people who believe they can dominate some events in their life, take responsibility for their successes and failures, and who are usually disciplined, confident in their abilities and have good self-esteem.
And there is also the external locus of control, typical of people who believe that life events, both positive and negative, are due to factors independent of their will, such as luck or fate. These people often have low self-esteem and experience constant anxiety.
Therefore, bad luck is just a decision, or rather, a series of decisions that, in one way or another, have brought us to where we are. Certainly sometimes disasters occur that could not have been foreseen, but to be honest, they happen very rarely in life.
At this point it is superfluous to add that the people who have achieved their goals in life are those who have the internal locus of control, who know what they want and fight to get it, are aware that they will have to face obstacles, but that they will be able to overcome them. and these will make them stronger.
In fact, a curious experiment conducted at the University of Hertfordshire has shown that the "lucky" people are those who have a more constructive attitude, who are open to opportunities and follow their intuition.
Participants in the study were asked to count some images that appeared in a newspaper. Interestingly, the "lucky" people, those with the internal locus of control, completed the task in seconds while those with the external locus of control who believed in bad luck took over two minutes. Because?
Simply because the first ones saw that on the second page of the periodical there was an advertisement that said: "Stop counting! The newspaper contains 43 photographs in all".
The test was repeated in a second experiment, only this time the ad said, "Stop counting and tell the experimenter you've seen this ad, and you'll win $ 250." Once again, only a few identified the announcement and of course all belonged to the group with the internal locus of control.
What does this experiment teach us?
That predisposition is an important factor when it comes to good luck, because if we are too tense and worried we miss out on opportunities.
3 practical tips to fight bad luck
1. Control your thoughts. We cannot hope to successfully face the world if we are unable to control our thoughts first. If you are a victim of your mind and it wanders incessantly producing negative and defeatist ideas you will not be able to go very far. Remember that thoughts are like little seeds in the garden of the mind. If you plant good seeds, they will grow, but if you don't look after your garden, weeds will grow too and overwhelm the good grass. Therefore, whenever you find yourself thinking in terms of good and bad luck, replace these ideas with positive thoughts that make you feel that you are in control.
2. Take your responsibilities. Every day we see how important public figures try to systematically evade their responsibilities, for this reason it may seem that escaping and denying our involvement in a given situation is the smartest and wisest decision. However, taking control of our life also means taking responsibility for the consequences of our actions and decisions. It is not a question of identifying a culprit, but of understanding where we went wrong and what we did well. Only in this way can we move forward feeling stronger and aware that we can change what we don't like to live more fully.
3. Be persistent. Bad luck consists only in giving up too soon. Success often comes after many consecutive failures. There are times when everything goes wrong, it is as if the universe has hatched a plan against us. In those moments, breathe deeply and move on. Remember that perseverance is the key to achieving the most important goals and, sooner or later, it will pay off.
