Imagine that you have received two
letters. One of these is a speeding ticket and the other is the
letter sent to you by a dear friend whom you haven't seen in a long time. Which
open first?
our life by making such decisions. And the truth is, the way it does
which we organize the activities or the news
negative e positive has a very important repercussion on how we do it
we will hear in the following hours. A study recently carried out by the University
of Seoul, involved volunteers by offering them pairs of common events
of everyday life, some cheerful and others depressing. They were asked what
ordered them on the basis of which they preferred to live first and which in
followed and also allowed them to determine how much time was to pass between a
experiment and the other. The experiment revealed that most
some people don't want negative and positive events to happen
In the same day. This indicates to us that we tend to extend the
suffering as pleasure, in this way we can recover from pain and
we can better savor the joy. Since life does not fit
almost never to our wishes, the researchers decided to recreate it in the
limits of the possible and for this reason they asked the study participants that
decided what should be the order of events during the same
day. In this way it was found that three quarters of the people
they preferred to get the bad news first. An option that does not appear
strange since we think that receiving the positive news at the end, this one
will erase the negative news. It is quite a process
similar to when we see a horror movie and then decide to see one
funny comedy for more relaxed bedtime. Obviously, it comes down to
a strategy that doesn't always work, as it will depend on the meaning
emotional events. In other words, if the bad news is really
terrible, it will be difficult for this to be erased by news
positive. The second result emerged from this
study was that people who reported higher happiness rates tended
to employ an identical strategy: seek the support of friends after having
received bad news. On the contrary, the people who showed
higher levels of depression and unhappiness tended to balance
bad news or a loss with a gain in the same industry. Like
say, if they suffered a financial loss, they concentrated on obtaining
positive economic results with other actions, perhaps by changing investment. What conclusions can we draw from all this? First, address that first
bad news is a good strategy but that, this technique will have no effect at all
unless both news items have the same emotional value. Second, that we don't have to
fighting bad news or event by trying to get results
positive in the same field. A much more effective and simpler strategy is
to share the situation with friends.
