Sometimes, the only one barrier that prevents us from moving forward and achieving our goals is ourselves, or rather, our mind. It's very simple: if you don't control your mind, it will end up controlling you. Needless to say more, at some point in life, where we all arrive at one point or another, the mind and the toxic beliefs it contains become a prison that limits our potential and perspective. that we believe there is only one way to do things, we are setting ourselves limits. Whenever we blindly accept tradition, we close ourselves to novelty. Whenever we think in terms of loss and failure, we put a mental block on ourselves. And worst of all, we do these things day after day, without realizing it.The good news is that the simple fact of identifying these limits that we place on ourselves reduces their power and opens our minds, allowing us to adopt a broader and richer perspective.The voice you hear in your mind: Whose is it?
At first glance it may seem almost madness. However, often this voice that resounds in our mind, especially when it is disparaging or accusatory, does not come from our "I". In fact, they are the voices of several significant people with whom we have related throughout our life, especially in childhood and adolescence.In fact, if you pay attention to some of the phrases you say to yourself when this is activated inner dialogue, you will realize that these phrases do not belong to you and, if you dig into your past, you will meet the rightful owner. It could be your parents, a teacher or even that child at school who made your life impossible.These phrases, which probably tore your self-esteem, have remained in your memory and, over time, you have made them yours, but they do not really belong to you, they are the perspective that others had of an "I" that no longer exists and that probably never existed. When you start paying attention to this inner dialogue, you will realize that many of your toxic beliefs come from from thoughts that other people have instilled in you. But you don't have to keep pushing the limits, on the contrary, you have to learn to eliminate these beliefs and to walk safely on your own legs.The 3 most common toxic beliefs that keep you from moving forward
While it may seem counterintuitive, the fact is that we don't always want to move forward. Sometimes we feel comfortable in the place where we are, we are afraid of the unknown, we prefer not to move. But we don't recognize it. And to keep us from moving forward, we turn into our worst enemy, we set the limit on purpose.Some of the most damaging beliefs you hold in your mind, perhaps without realizing it, are:1. "This is not the right time"Procrastination is a serious problem that can cause you to miss out on unique opportunities. Continuously postponing your dreams will ensure that you will arrive at the home straight without having realized them. And what's worse: you'll complain about missing the opportunity; in reality, behind the belief that it's not the right time is just a lack of motivation or fear. What happens is that we are afraid to leave our comfort zone, because we don't know what we will encounter outside. As a result, we prefer to deceive ourselves by telling ourselves that this is not the right time. However, life always involves a certain degree of uncertainty, we can never be 100% sure, we must be willing to take at least a minimum of risk. Remember that when you have a reason to fight you will encounter means along the way. You just need to be daring and take the first step.2. "I'm not an expert"Society has made us believe that if we're not good enough at something, it's best not to even try. However, this path only serves to close many doors, it leaves no room for learning and growth. If we do not engage in new projects, we will never be able to improve.The truth is that no one is born prepared, those who are experts in some sector today, yesterday were not. What makes them different is the time and effort they put into this passion. After all, we must remember that genius is made up of 1% talent and 99% perseverance; however, to enjoy most of the things in life you don't need to do them perfectly. Perfectionism is nothing more than a barrier that keeps you going in circles, preventing you from moving forward. Be concerned about enjoying what you do, and don't hide behind perfectionism, because with practice, the results will also improve.
3. "I will definitely fail"Henry Ford, one of the most successful entrepreneurs of all time, said: "Either you think you can, as if you think you can't, either way you are right." The point is, your mind is your best ally or, your worst enemy. Of course, a dose of strategic negativity can be convenient, as it helps you prepare for the worst case scenario. But thinking in advance that you will fail implies adopting a defeatist attitude that will not lead you on the right path, but will gradually consume your motivation. But if you start a project thinking you will fail, you won't get very far. Remember that hope is our most powerful engine. Therefore, do not allow anyone to take it from you, not even yourself.
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