By carefully examining a person's gestures, we can understand if they are interested in us. We reveal the secrets of silent seduction.
Last update: June 29, 2022
Words and actions can convey inaccurate or untrue messages. On the contrary, gestures escape the conscious control of most people showing what is most authentic we carry. Observing them carefully we can understand if a person is interested in us.
The science of attraction has always focused on non-verbal communication. There where the authentic foundations of seduction are traced and impregnated, where the pupils dilate and there is a desire for someone towards us.
While there may sometimes be room for error, in general body language is quite straightforward. To this we must also add another dimension that helps us on more than one occasion: intuition.
"Vertigo means that the depth that opens up before us attracts us, seduces us, awakens in us the desire to fall ...".
-Milan Kundera-
Smiles, postures, looks, breath… A dance that encourages us to take the step. However, fears and insecurity often place us on that safe boundary in which to keep waiting, to read gestures and nuances.
How to tell if a person is interested
Visual contact
We always turn our gaze to what attracts our interest and likes. This mechanism is mediated by oxytocin, the hormone that orchestrates much of our processes of seduction, affection and sexuality.
High levels of oxytocin promote eye contact, which in turn mediates pupil dilation. Likewise, there is a fact that we cannot ignore: when eye contact is fixed, we feel it as a threat. This means it shouldn't last more than a couple of seconds.
The smile
In addition to eye contact, spontaneous smiling is also a possible indicator that a person is interested in us. Many times it is inevitable for us to smile when we are in front of someone that attracts us.
A light touch
A caress on the arm, touch the hands, move a lock of hair that has fallen on the forehead ... To understand if a person is interested in us, let's observe these gestures.
That light touch is not a sexual allusion, behind it lies the sincere desire to be together with the other. It follows that the contact is always attentive and above all endowed with sincere affection.
There are those who remove lint from someone else's clothes, those who straighten a crooked tie or the button of a shirt… Simple, pleasant and never intrusive gestures.
Lips
Slightly open your mouth, smile, let out a light sigh ... They are spontaneous reactions when you are in front of a person you like.
Understanding if a person is interested: posture and proximity
Body posture is a key indicator of whether a person is interested in us. On average, it is normal to lean towards the other, to seek closeness, to show oneself more open, to shorten the distance… Similarly, this inclination towards the other will continue to increase as the relationship improves.
For example, if two people are sitting next to each other, they will adopt a posture to encourage conversation and eye contact. Then the shoulders will come closer, then the hips until they end up leaning against each other.
agitation
The person who is interested in us will subconsciously reflect his emotional enthusiasm, his emotion. Here you are because he will probably touch his chin, cheeks or ears, move his legs restlessly.
Find out if a person is interested
Compliments are also a sign of interest. The person interested can compliment the new haircut or dazzling smile.
In such cases it is possible that the compliment is not just a simple observation, but the consequence of careful observation dictated by interest.
Treat differently
To understand if a person is interested, we need to pay attention to the way they treat us. She will probably listen to us more carefully, she will prefer to talk to us more than with anyone else, it will show proximity, etc.
Understanding if a person is interested in the small details
No expensive gifts or a giant bouquet of flowers are needed. It will be enough, for example, bring a cake from your favorite bakery or give a keychain on your last trip. These details show that he thinks about it and wants to see us happy.
Imitate yourself
When two people like each other they tend to imitate each other. To understand if a person is interested in us, therefore, is to notice if he tends to repeat our gestures: crossing his legs, fiddling with something in his hands, touching his hair, etc.
"We can have all the media in the world, but nothing, absolutely nothing, replaces the human aspect."
-Paulo Coelho-
Spending time together
Of course, another very clear sign of a person's interest in us is their desire to spend time together. When we feel attracted to someone, it is inevitable to desire their proximity, to frequent the same places in the attempt of a casual encounter.
Likewise, if there is already a certain level of trust, he will invite you to go out or propose an activity that might be to the liking of the other so that you can spend more time together.
Conclusions
Many of the gestures described in this article are more than obvious clues to tell if someone is interested in us. They are elements of that non-verbal language that so often escapes our hands (and our conscious control) to express desire, attraction and infatuation.
We pay due attention to participate in that dance of seduction or to stop something we don't want. It is in our power to make the best decision.
