Last update: 21 September, 2022
As the years go by, it is normal for the former sexual desire to fade or even fade. Everyday life, lack of time, habits and everyday problems are some of the factors that can contribute to extinguishing the flame. Thankfully, there are many ways to regain desire in a couple relationship.
Some research confirms that because desire levels vary over time, discrepancies in this area are an inevitable feature of relationships. Nevertheless, it is possible to find desire again.
5 ways to regain desire
1 - Frequent displays of affection
To rediscover the desire, kisses and caresses are essential. Simply being more present in the displays of affection and doing it for longer can increase the couple's connection.
In the beginning, couples they enjoy passionate kisses, caresses and all kinds of affectionate gestures. Over time, however, these behaviors may decrease, both in frequency and intensity. For this, resuming these exchanges and interactions is an indispensable part of the emotional and sexual health of the couple.
Kisses, hugs, and caresses are a way to express feelings of affection and desire in courtship. In addition, flirting can promote sexual intercourse and increase the attraction for both partners.
2 - Arrange appointments
During the first few months of the relationship, it is common to make an effort to arrange dates in places full of charm and romance. These meetings are perfect times to mentally disconnect and focus all attention on the person in front of us.
Despite this, over the years the couple takes on more responsibility. This is especially true when children are born. As a result, it can become difficult to break the monotony and arrange special dates such as a romantic or fun evening.
Even if it becomes difficult to find time to be together, it is essential to organize appointments with a certain frequency in order to preserve the relationship. There is no need to do special things, the important thing is to show how much your partner is important to you.
"You can forget the person you laughed with ever the one you cried with."
-Gibran Kahlil Gibran-
3 - Take care of your physical and emotional health
When we don't feel good about ourselves physically and emotionally, the sexual side of our daily life is more likely to suffer. It's important take care of your appearance and well-being. In this way, we will feel more comfortable in intimacy.
To feel good about yourself, you don't just need to follow a healthy diet and play sports. Need take care of your self-esteem and learn to manage emotions.
Getting to know each other and taking care of oneself is essential so that the flame of love and of course of passion remain alive. In addition, keep in mind that if the physical interest between the members of the couple remains alive over the years, it is much easier to keep the sexual desire alive as well.
Some research claims that physical appearance is essential to feeling sexual attraction for a person. Taking care of your physical health also has a very positive impact on how we feel emotionally.
4 - Surprise your partner
Everyone likes to receive surprises. Even so, when you've been in a relationship for a long time, it's easy to forget the little details that please your partner so much. This can happen even if at the beginning of the relationship these gestures were very frequent.
You can surprise your partner in a thousand ways. It is not necessary to give a great gift or something very special. The important thing is to show affection in a way your partner doesn't expect. It's about making small gestures that show love and that you consider yourselves special to each other.
5 - Contact a couple specialist
The most recent statistics published in our country show that more than half of women and 20% of men acknowledge that they are not satisfied with their sex life. Many people recognize the need for a change in their relationship but don't know how. In these cases, it may be a good idea to seek specialized professional assistance.
Like any other therapist, a couple specialist will be able to give you useful tips on this. In this way you will discover some useful strategies to regain desire in your couple relationships.
