According to recent research, there is a gene that promotes couple happiness. What does this discovery say and what implications does it have?
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Last update: 15 November 2022
Why is it easy to fall in love, but it is so difficult to build a serious, stable and rewarding relationship? Maybe the explanation is written in our genes. This is what a group of researchers who have discovered the gene for happy relationships says.
Apparently there is a genotype that predisposes us to establish these bonds. Does this mean that those lucky enough to be born with this genetic trait are destined to be happy in love? Obviously not.
As we know, the relationship of the couple is complex, and happiness depends on many variables, some of which are beyond our control.
It must be admitted, however, that science never ceases to surprise us. Knowing that DNA may contain the formula that increases the chance of having a happy bond is curious to say the least.
The gene of happy relationships
That there is a gene for happy relationships might sound like science fiction. Or it might make us think that there is some biological determinism. Or, perhaps, that we could pretend to analyze the genetic heritage before launching into a romantic relationship.
Well, maybe it's better not to work too hard with your imagination, because the question is much simpler. The recently published study was conducted by the University of Arkansas, Florida State University and McGill University.
The aim was to identify the genetic markers that can explain the stability and satisfaction in the couple relationship; the data that emerged are very interesting.
The CD38 gene and its role in oxytocin production
Apparently, the CD38 gene has the specific task of releasing oxytocin in abundance when we are involved in a relationship. What does this translate into?
In an important effect: we will be able to experience more thoughts, emotions and behaviors aimed at strengthening the sentimental bond.
As we all know, oxytocin is the hormone of affection, healthy attachment and love. This multipurpose molecule drives most of our caring behaviors towards each other.
The happy relationship gene is expressed through three beliefs
The research lasted three years and involved 73 couples, with a dual objective. The first, to analyze the progress of the relationship. The second, to analyze genetic samples (saliva) to identify possible markers that could explain the stability and happiness of the couple.
The result, as anticipated, is that the most established and happy couples had the CD38 gene. In addition to favoring a greater release of oxytocin, it was observed that this effect was linked to three beliefs (thoughts) about emotional relationships:
- The report is based on a fundamental principle: confidence. This dimension needs to be fed every day.
- The ability to forgive. Conflicts, arguments, small mistakes always deserve understanding, an effort of empathy.
- Feeling of gratitudeCouples with the happy relationship gene who have been together for more than three years have said they are grateful to share life.
The CC genotype in men
In the course of this research, a small difference in the gender variable was discovered: men with the CC genotype have a stronger identity and feeling as a couple.
This means that men with this particular genotype tend to feel more engaged towards the partner. In other words, they would be less prone to infidelity or carefree or inattentive behavior.
What are the implications of the discovery of the CD38 gene?
We might think that the discovery of this gene is a kind of Rosetta stone. Is it therefore sufficient to have that genotype for the couple relationship to be satisfying and successful? In reality this is not the case
A gene increases the likelihood of a specific trait manifesting, but it is not decisive. Not to mention that the CD38 gene may be present in our DNA, but not in the partner's DNA. This suggests that the success of a relationship does not depend solely on the genetic factor.
Other variables such as personality, emotional maturity or empathy are far more important. In addition to this, the couple is threatened by a series of obstacles and challenges that cannot always be controlled.
Knowing that you have the happy relationship gene is interesting and curious, but it is not this element that marks our destiny.
