Technology is present in work, in food and even in sexuality. Sexting, dating apps, erotic content: perhaps we believe we are closer when, in reality, we are further away from each other.
Last update: Augusts 25, 2022
Technology and new forms of communication are among the factors that have most affected today's society. They gained importance gradually and inexorably. By now it can be said that there are no areas that have remained indifferent to their presence. Technology is present in work, in food and even in sexuality.
There are many types of technologies, but perhaps the most pervasive and disturbing is the mobile phone. As for sex, it seems to no longer be necessary to know each other in person. Not even being physically with each other.
Let's find out how technology has changed sexuality.
How has technology changed sexuality?
First, technology has made an immense amount of erotic content available to everyone. Information, but also virtual spaces for comparison. Films, more or less explicit, with an enormous sexual charge and without any kind of censorship. Content that we can consume when and how we want.
The absence of censorship has helped to end many taboos, but it has generated prejudice. Just to give an example, the scenes of adult films have little or nothing to do with reality. Often the woman is portrayed as an object or the idea that her refusal to have sexual intercourse is fake is reinforced.
The fact that the Internet makes this kind of content available to us is not bad in itself. However, we must be aware that not only adults can access it. In addition to learning to differentiate what we see on the Internet or in a film from reality.
Sexting
Another way that technology has influenced sexuality is in the way we relate to others, be they acquaintances or strangers. Sending photos or videos with more or less explicit sexual content was a real revolution.
Sexting, on many occasions, is that spark that many couples need to increase desire. Therefore, it can be a useful tool. However, we must be aware that the submitted content can be shown or shared with other people.
The dating apps
Apps designed for flirting have greatly reduced the strain of starting a relationship and opened up a world of possibilities. These applications allow us to get to know thousands of people and decide if what they offer us suits what we are looking for. It is as if the bar we frequent has grown, knowing moreover that whoever enters is looking for a relationship.
Thanks to this type of technology it is much easier to find a person similar to us. There is a wide choice and in some cases we can afford to be selective. Furthermore, all this happens very quickly, responding to the need of those who do not have time to find a partner due to daily commitments.
The downside is that profiles in these applications aren't always true. Also, since the offer is so wide, relationships tend to break up more easily, never really getting to know each other. In short, many people enter and leave our lives, often without a trace.
Technology and sexuality: emotional ties have changed
The emotional ties have changed. Through the apps we know people with whom we decide to interact if we like photos. Through the chat we communicate and begin the courtship.
Many consider it an advantage, especially when shyness or fear represents a very serious obstacle to socialization. However, the price to pay for the technology is that it is much harder to really know each other. Furthermore, dodging those situations in which we have to practice our social skills prevents us from developing them.
“… The case of Tinder and other similar applications or platforms is emblematic: they try to fill the void produced by the loneliness of a society connected only through the digital network. A society that has worn out the community and prefers individualism and the distancing of others ".
Today there is more distrust between couples
A consequence on the way of living sexuality is that today there is more distrust between couples. Even in a simple gesture like accepting a new friend on facebook. As we can see, technology in sexuality has also had a negative impact. However, Espinoza Rojas points out the following:
“Sexuality experienced today is different and will change as we, as a society, change. However, we need to be aware of how technology affects sexuality and how we bond with others. It would be appropriate to reflect on this: perhaps we believe we are closer when, in reality, we are further away from each other ”.
