How to make a proud ex come back? ... My ex is stubborn as a mule, what can I do?
As you already know, there are many obstacles you may face on your way to win back a man. Two of them are definitely your ex partner's pride or stubbornness.
If he has a very strong character, and besides that he is very proud or stubborn, his attitude could make all your attempts to reconnect more difficult.
How to get a man back
The fundamental prerequisite for getting an ex back after a breakup or separation is to be able to make him feel strong emotions and awaken his attraction towards you. This purpose is achieved with various techniques or necessary steps that I have already extensively talked about in other articles:
- Send a letter to the ex
- Apply the principle of no contact
- Improve yourself and your life
- Far ingelosire l'ex
- Review it and bring it back to you
Before jumping to the conclusion that your ex is proud or too stubborn, and this is the reason he doesn't want to get back with you, I invite you to stop and think for a moment: perhaps the main reason why you are not yet together. and another.
Pride and stubbornness are obstacles, we agree, but the truth is that many people, even those who are particularly proud or stubborn, can be led to change their minds when they receive enough. stimuli on an emotional level.
If reading the various articles contained in the recapture section of the blog, you realize that there are still attempts you could make to increase your ex's emotional involvement with you, focus on this path first.
In the following paragraphs, however, we will see in detail how to behave to get a stubborn ex back and how to bring back a proud ex.
How to get a stubborn ex back
If when he left you he seemed very determined in his decision, and now he continues to stick with it with a lot of energy, you may think that you have no chance of making him change his mind. He may have told you phrases like:
- We will never get back together, forget me!
- This time it's really over.
- I don't love you anymore.
- I don't see a future with you anymore.
But are you sure what he's telling you is true?
Remember when, going back a few months, he declared that he loved you madly and wanted to be with you forever. You know he was sincere, yet now he seems to have totally changed my mind about your relationship.
This means that it will be possible to reverse the situation once again, and get a stubborn ex back to you, if you follow the right path of reconquest without forcing the necessary steps.
So let's get to the point ... how to get a stubborn ex back?
The solution is to have patience, give him space and start the period of no contact, with the trust and knowledge that he will come back to you if in this period you are able to renew yourself, to intrigue him and to apply a little inverse psychology.
Do you know what happens when you try to get a stubborn man to do something?
It happens that he will not. The more you insist, the more he'll get in the way, starting in a vicious circle that will not lead to anything good.
So if he doesn't want to be with you right now, the best thing to do for now is to give him room to process his emotions, and the only way to do that is to commit to the no contact principle.
A recent study conducted by Binghamton University confirms that men need more time than women to process their emotions after a relationship ends. A stubborn man probably needs even more time, so you need to be patient.
If you know how to wait, soon your man will spontaneously realize how much he misses you, and how empty and insignificant his life without you is.
How to make a proud ex come back
In some cases it is possible that the real obstacle to be faced is pride.
These are situations where your ex has unequivocal feelings towards you, but his pride pulls him away from you in an attempt to preserve or restore. his dignity.
A man's pride is never accidental and unjustified, so it will be useful to analyze more closely the situations that could have led him to raise his barriers despite the feelings he feels.
1. It was you who left him, hurt him, or humiliated him in some way.
Maybe you are the one who made the decision to leave him. You weren't happy within your relationship or you felt like things weren't working out between you, so you decided to leave it, but now are you sorry of your choice. In this case maybe your ex wants some take revenge, making you feel the same things you made him feel when you left him.
Another possible cause of his resentment could be that you hurt or humiliated him in some way, such as through infidelity. If you have cheated on him, don't regard his pride as inappropriate, as it is a reaction completely legitimate.
Either way what you need to do is apologize and leave space to the other person, without pretending to be able to climb over the wall of his pride too quickly and easily. Patience will lead you to victory.
2. You yourself are very proud and are not facilitating his return.
Have you ever thought that maybe you are too proud?
If he broke up with you, and now you want to crawl him back, you should probably reconsider your expectations. By showing resentment or strong hostility towards your ex, with the hope that this attitude will prompt him to return to you with his tail between his legs, you will only end up causing your pride to collide with his. You will favor the raising of an insurmountable wall between you two, who can no longer be shot down.
The best strategy, on the other hand, is to be seen as disinterested and unavailable, but absolutely not resentful.
If you show that you have expectations of him, a man with a big ego will never take the first step to reconnect with you, even after realizing he made a big mistake when he left you.
After the period of no contact you should be the one to contact him again, trying to reconnect with him, but obviously without showing your intentions to get back together.
This way his defenses will be low, and he will have no reason to "be proud".
Bringing an ex back: conclusions
I am convinced that I have given you some very interesting advice on how to get a man back, which I hope you will be able to use intelligently to achieve your goal.
But at the same time I realize that the reconquest is a delicate and complex path: it is a daily struggle that we find ourselves facing just when we are emotionally more fragile and in need of help. This is why you may need an extra helping hand.
In order not to leave you alone in this delicate phase of your life, I have decided to set up a daily email path to help you. If you decide to join, I will send you valuable tips and tricks every day to win back your ex without making other mistakes.
