How to make a girl/woman cum every time: 11 secrets 🆙

If you want to improve your performance in bed, you definitely need to read this ultimate guide on how to make a girl cum every time. Finish this article and your woman will be much more satisfied.

Try these moves to push your partner to the limit.

"You're done?" Sorry I'm the bearer of bad news, but if you have to ask a woman if she's had an orgasm, chances are she hasn't.

This is especially true if, like the average guy, it took you 5-7 minutes to finish. According to 2019 research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, it takes the average woman about twice as long, 13,41 minutes, to reach orgasm during normal intercourse.

It's also worth noting that the vast majority of women do not achieve an orgasm from penetration alone; they also need external stimulation of the clitoris.

All of this contributes to what is commonly known as the "orgasm gap": the proven fact that men have orgasms during sex much more frequently than women. A 2014 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that heterosexual women orgasm 63% of the time with a regular partner (husband or boyfriend), while men orgasm 85% of the time with a regular partner. Other studies have highlighted an even larger gap.

A 2017 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that straight women orgasm 65% of the time, while straight men orgasm 95% of the time. According to a 2012 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, women orgasm even less than 40 percent of the time if it's during casual sex, like a one-night stand, according to a 2012 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

Now that you know this, you're probably wondering: How can I make sure I make a girl cum every time I have sex? Maybe it's time to step up your game. After all, you can't keep doing the exact same moves and expect different results.

What can you do to help her get to the top? Help her relax, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. "Studies show that for a woman to have an orgasm, the part of her brain associated with her stress, excitement and anxiety must be turned off."

Translation: If you make a woman feel so good that she completely forgets about everything else, then you're more likely to give her an orgasm.

Contrary to his instincts, this may mean not telling him how much you want him to cum… this kind of pressure can make him even less likely to cum.

Of course, every woman is different, so what one girl loves in bed, another girl may hate. That said, there are some moves that tend to work, so if your partner is having a hard time getting there, try these tips from real women and sexual health experts.

11 tips on how to make a girl cum EVERY TIME

1) Don't try to rush her orgasm.

Before asking yourself how to make a girl cum, try to figure out how to make her feel good, make her feel comfortable, and feel both physical and emotional pleasure.

“Try to remember that the point of sex is pleasure, and orgasm is a type of pleasure that is significantly shorter than everything else,” says Shadeen Francis, LMFT. "If, during sex, you can create a space focused on feeling your best, this can make her more likely to orgasm."

That's why Francis recommends going slower. Take your time with your moves and don't focus on the ending. There is a slight irony in all of this: the more your partner thinks about orgasm, the less likely they are to have an orgasm. So change her focus to make her feel her best, for as long as possible.

2) Stimulate the clitoris.

First of all: the vast majority of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, period. In fact, a 1.000 study of more than 2017 women revealed that only 18 percent of women are able to orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. Therefore, when having sex, you should spend as much time as possible stimulating the clitoris.

Some sexual positions make it easier than others. Rachel reveals this trick: "When a guy is on top of you in a missionary position, have him move his body slightly forward so that every time he thrusts, his groin brushes against your clit." This tactic is even more orgasmic if the woman's legs are together and the man is on a horse, says Ellen Friedrichs, MA, professor of human sexuality at Rutgers University. The same effect can be achieved when she is on top, propped up on her elbows, which brings her abdomen into closer contact with her clitoris.

3) Pay more attention to her butt.

Unless anal sex is on the stairs, all too often a woman's butt is pushed to the side during sex. And that's a shame, because "the buttocks are full of nerve endings," says Gilda Carle, Ph.D., a sex therapist in New York City. "To give him a surprising jolt of pleasure, she opens her fingers and squeezes both buttocks."

That said, be kind and take it one step at a time. Yeah sure, there are women out there who crave a good spanking, but until you've had a conversation about this sort of thing, keep your grip simple and light.

4) Learn what he likes and put it into practice.

As we said earlier, direct clitoral stimulation is the safest way to bring many women to orgasm, and oral sex is a good way to do it. "Pounding a woman gives you a better understanding of the stimulation she enjoys in each phase of arousal, especially in the final phase," says Kerner.

To find out more about her likes and dislikes, let her take the lead. When you cunnigulus her, get between her legs and give her a solid base of lips, tongue, and even chin to rub against. At first, use your hands to guide his hips and let him know you want him to lead. When you take control, make a mental note of how hard you're pushing and in what direction. Use this information every time you use your fingers or your mouth to please her.

5) Don't stop kissing her.

Once things get hotter, you might be tempted to focus less on kissing in favor of more X-rated pleasures. But intense kissing is a must for female orgasm, according to a 2017 survey of more than 50.000. XNUMX adults. The results revealed that women were much more likely to reach orgasm if their sexual encounter included a combination of kissing, oral sex and vaginal stimulation.

6) Satisfy your fantasies.

Ask her if she has any fantasies she'd like to explore. "Fantasies can increase arousal during a sexual experience," says Francesco. "Finding a fantasy that really turns your partner on can add another level of pleasure during sex that can help push her over the edge." It's also a way to arouse her psychologically, which is just as important (if not more important) than physical arousal.

7) Don't be afraid to talk dirty.

In the heat of the moment, a well-chosen set of words can work wonders. Test the waters "by complimenting her or talking about how great she is," advises Friedrichs. If he responds with "Oh yeah" or an equally enthusiastic phrase, he wants you to talk more.

If in doubt, a simple compliment about how attractive you find your partner will do the rest. "You don't have to say weird things or make pornographic sounds, a sincere and passionate compliment is damn sexy," says Emily.

8) Lubricated.

No matter how hot and fit you are, without proper lubrication, sex is likely to be uncomfortable or even painful for her. "Lubrication increases the comfort and speed with which one can enter the vagina and rub against the clitoris," says Friedrichs. "But sometimes, no matter how aroused a woman is psychologically, she can have trouble getting wet."

In fact, studies have shown that women enjoy sex more when they use moderate amounts of lubricant. And here's another fun fact: Men who add extra lubrication to their condoms during intercourse tend to last longer in bed, according to research published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Try spraying a few drops of lubricant on the tip of your penis; then penetrate in short, rhythmic strokes and progressively deeper as you press your body against her pubis.

9) Focus on her neck.

Our necks are highly reactive tactile cushions: the skin is thin and the blood vessels are close to the surface. So it's no surprise that researchers have found that the neck is one of the best places to stimulate a woman with a light touch (so no pacifiers, please).

When you're having sex and she's clearly coming, touch your lips to her neck from her collarbone to her jaw, then give her soft, warm kisses to drive her crazy.

10) Take out the toys.

If your partner never peaks no matter how hard you try, it may be time to enlist the help of sex toys. In fact, she'll probably be more than happy to get her personal massager out of her nightstand drawer: According to a 2009 study, more than 50% of women regularly use vibrators to reach orgasm.

Press the vibrator against your clitoris as you move from position to position and enjoy the show. Just remember to ask him about his pressure and speed preferences; you don't want to start too fast and hard right away.

11) Ask him what he wants.

This may seem obvious, but asking your partner exactly what turns her on is the best way to help her reach orgasm. In fact, studies have shown that people who are more comfortable talking about sex have better sex because they feel less anxious during intercourse. Talking about her fantasies, preferences, and disagreements (without judging her) will make her feel more comfortable, which, in turn, will lead to both of you having incredible orgasms.

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