Two words with a profound meaning for those who pronounce them and for those who listen to them, but which do not transmit the same sensations over time.
Last update: January 31, 2022
Two simple words often at the origin of great stories of love and bittersweet taste during a breakup: I love you.
Depending on the stage in which we pronounce it, an "I love you" can have very different meanings. Saying it for the first time probably arouses more intense emotions than when the relationship has been going on for at least a year.
I love you, why so many meanings?
Two people in a relationship grow up together. Within their personal growth, everyone finds new situations that affect their life, and therefore the couple.
Following this, the meaning of "I love you" evolves as the relationship grows and, separately, of people.
However, something remains unchanged when we say these two words: we are interested in the person to whom we address them. It doesn't matter if this expression is accompanied by tears, laughter, hugs ... Its importance and magic must be maintained during each stage of the relationship.
So what does I love you at every stage mean?
We will see the evolution of these words in every phase of the relationship. Surely you will feel identified with some or all of them, as they tend to repeat themselves in every relationship. Where are you now?
Two months: I like everything
In a stable, long-term relationship, two months are few and far between. It is true that at first we feel more in love, as we discover the special person with whom we decided to start such an exciting project.
To say "I love you" after two months is to feel that what you have at the moment will last forever. If we are realistic, however, we know that nothing lasts forever, much less a relationship of only 2 months.
It is good to emphasize in this first phase that many of us, due to the personal immaturity typical of youth or not having had many relationships, confuse the way in which we love a person in the present moment with a feeling that will last for a lifetime and they say I love you instead of an intense "I like you".
We invite you to reflect before uttering these two important words and look within. This way you can avoid misunderstandings and not hurt the person you are starting to love, or not.
Five months: you are important
Studies say that the five months correspond to the last days of the first phase of falling in love. I love you right now can mean "you are important in my life" and "I want to reserve a space for you in my heart".
It is true that we still feel some uncertainty and many doubts or fears, such as: Will it break my heart? Will it feel the same?
A time of less than 6 months usually does not bring clarity. An I love you at this stage, therefore, continues to cause butterflies in the stomach, but perhaps not yet in the heart.
Six months: we are perfect together
At this stage, one continually thinks of each other. You love everything your partner does and it is expressed with photos, emails, dedications, etc.
I love you means so much more than it felt three months ago. Now it means appreciating the way the person makes us feel and feel important because they are chosen.
Seven months: it's ours
There is a beautiful similarity and with which I fully agree: "loving someone is like changing city". We will find that it makes sense since in a relationship the more time passes, the more the mutual feeling tends to grow. When we say "I love you" at this stage, we mean that what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine.
From now on this love you is something shared, like everything else that happens in your relationship
Ten months: you are my best friend
This is the stage where it is considered natural to be with your partner. Being away starts to hurt. Right now I love you has a much more serious connotation. It does not matter if it is said after a joke or via text message, the meaning has the same great importance.
Probably if asked at this point you would not just say that your partner is "an amazing person". You would also say that he "is my best friend".
This I love you goes far beyond what it wants to offer you or what you want to offer. It is when the word "love" begins to enter the inner language and the heart.
I love you after a year: you are my world
When you live in unconditional and pure love, if you were asked how you feel, you would probably answer that you cannot imagine your life without your partner,
Right now "I love you" is much more permanent since feelings and mutual attentions are not questioned.
You feel safe and comfortable. Telling the person you love that you love them relaxes you and makes you feel fulfilled.
Two years: I think about the future
I love you at this stage means "I love who you are and I will love what you will be and you will have to be in your person ". Obviously this meaning comes after feeling a sense of trust, or that is the same: as long as you are both together, nothing is impossible or scary.
Three years when living together: marry me
I love you now means that you want to make love permanent. Share everything with the person you love. A life filled with love, trust, wisdom and most of all, mutual learning.
Surely with these words it will mean "You are all I want", because this is what the heart and soul really mean.
Four years, marriage or formal engagement: daydreams
One of the most beautiful experiences that can happen to a human being is to love and be reciprocated. Nothing is like feeling another person's true love and reciprocating unconditionally.
This moment represents a kind of emotional nirvana. Many people will think you are lucky and many others will feel healthy envy. Not everyone, in fact, is not lucky enough to discover this incredible feeling.
The evolution of "I love you"
The sentences presented in this article typically represent the evolving nature of a couple relationship, but it is important to be aware that every relationship needs and shows different times.
Many, for example, may get stuck in one phase, as they need more time or emotional tools to work on the relationship.
