Distance is a challenge for many couples. Communication, trust and respect are resources that make it less burdensome.
Last update: February 19, 2022
Long-distance couples are increasingly common, yet for some it is inconceivable and unthinkable to have a partner hundreds of miles away. For others, however, it represents an incentive to keep the flame of love alive: missing each other, not seeing each other for days or even weeks can lead to an even more intense encounter.
Still others endure the distance, even if it is difficult, as they believe that love is above all else. For these couples, deciding to separate physically is complicated and, in some ways, painful. However, they accept that personal and / or professional circumstances prevail at that time and that therefore it is necessary to take this step.
It should be emphasized that at the beginning of a relationship the first desire is to touch, hug, kiss the partner at all times. We want to feel him close, we need to spend time with him. That same desire for closeness and continuous affection will likely accompany the relationship's evolution.
But if it is true that each couple is a world unto itself and that not all people are the same, sometimes dilemmas can arise regarding long-distance couples. Can I really take it? How can I keep the flame of love alive in the face of so many kilometers? In the next few lines, we will list some of the most important ingredients to keep a relationship going despite the miles.
Long-distance couples: a good dose of communication
Communication is a fundamental element for the good functioning of the relationship. Technology currently makes distance a minor obstacle. We can spend hours talking to our partner via messages or even video calls, which add a certain closeness by being able to include the audiovisual element.
A research on long-distance relationships published in the scientific journal Journal of Communication, conducted by Crystal Jiang, has collected data that supports the hypothesis that people with long-distance relationships tend to create stronger bonds than normal couples thanks to constant and deep communication. . In short, according to experts, distance can foster a context in which communication is more persevering and fruitful.
It should be emphasized that communicating also includes the manifestation of what we do not like or that could annoy us. However, long-distance couples often avoid conflict because they don't want to waste time to discuss.
In this sense, we must not forget that relationships are partly built and strengthened also through conflict, as it is necessary to know how the partner handles such situations and to get to know each other in this area as well. Below, we provide you with some useful strategies a maintaining and strengthening the bond in long-distance relationships.
In long-distance couples, kilometers shouldn't be an obstacle to communication and expression.
Organize meetings
Plan your next meetings and spend some of your day chatting with your partner. That is to say, establish couple dynamics about how and when to spend time together.
Organizing your future meetings can become a good way to fight the distance, because having specific dates in the short term helps maintain the motivation and enthusiasm to spend time with your partner; to see him again.
"There are no distances when you have a reason."
-Jane Austen-
Accept the changes
Our partner is hundreds of miles away from us and we won't be able to see him again for a few weeks. It's time to accept the situation and try to manage time intelligently.
Make time for yourself, your favorite activities and socialize with other people. In this way, you will avoid becoming emotionally dependent people, who live waiting for the return of the partner. Rather, you will be able to enjoy your life and independence, while living your meetings and conversations with your partner in a healthy way.
At the same time, we cannot ignore that, Just as it is important to accept changes and move on with your life, it is also important to trust and respect your partner. Trust and respect are the basis of every relationship and in long-distance couples, who cannot see each other face to face every day, distrust can easily arise. It is always essential to resolve and clarify possible doubts. In summary, create a solid foundation for the relationship based on openness and respect.
"The distance is temporary, but our love is permanent."
-Ben Harper-
