In this article we will talk about a contribution to passion in all those relationships threatened by routine. It seems that people with a high dose of creativity in every aspect of their life are also able to establish and maintain relationships that are far from monotony.
Last update: February 19, 2022
Today we talk about romantic passion and creativity. Although they may seem like elements that are very distant from each other, the latest research has revealed the existence of an important link between the two. Creativity thus asserts itself as one of the main nutrients of romantic passion.
The commonplace has it that love relationships, in the long run, end up being based on a sort of mechanical automatism in which to share habits, goals and ways of seeing life and in which, in some way - and with the passage of time - passion fails. But that may not be the case. Indeed, romantic passion in long-term relationships appears to be closely related to creativity in the relationship.
In a relationship, passion refers to desire, eros, sexual attraction, and romantic longing. Something that many couples end up losing in a few years, and that gives way to another kind of love. This is what we believed up to now, just as we think that relationships based exclusively on romantic passion tend not to last and not to consolidate to become long-term relationships.
What is certain is that romantic passion is something we all need - some more, some less - and that we shouldn't give up in exchange for a more solid relationship over time. According to studies conducted by Northwestern University and the University of London, romantic passion has no reason to be left out of a long-term relationship, even if it appears that keeping it alive requires a certain level of creativity.
To what extent does romantic passion matter in our lives?
Not everyone seems to be willing to lose romantic passion over time, even when losing it means a more stable relationship.
It plays a vital role in our personal development, in our well-being and also in maintaining a stable relationship.
An example of this is the enormous popularity of romantic poems, novels or films. And that's because, after all, no one is happy to lose that magic with their partner or to easily surrender to another kind of love.
Passion is what moves the world, and our lives. Finding it or losing it brings out the best and the worst in us. It is as powerful as it is fragile at the same time.
The results of the studies conducted on the subject seem to indicate that among couples who have an average relationship of ten years, 40% say they are still in love.
And it's not just their testimony that proves it. The MRI results performed on the samples show that people who affirmed the strong dose of romantic passion with their longtime partner also exhibited high levels of activation of the brain areas that are activated during the early stages of a passionate relationship.
We can easily find these findings reflected in things like regular intimate relationships, the intentional pursuit of sexual fulfillment, focusing on the positive aspects of the relationship, and so on. However, this study focused on another factor that appears to be common to these people's lives: creativity.
Several researches have shown the importance of the creative process in our emotional well-being, as we are satisfied with our life and in the stimulation of new relationships. But this research goes much further. It seems that deeply creative people are attracting more partners to create important emotional bonds with, which seem to improve over time, as well as better at keeping the passion alive.
La vie en rose: romantic passion
Studies have associated creativity with people's ability to see their partner through 'pink lenses'. That is to say, through what in psychology are known as "positive illusions about the couple".
This type of illusions seem to overlook shortcomings and also constitute a solid basis on which the partner feels more valued, more desired, more attractive and happier in their relationship.
Creativity in lasting couples seems to be the fundamental element thanks to which boredom and dissatisfaction are not part of the stable relationship.
Passionate in all aspects of life
Passion is not a prerogative of romantic relationships. Passionate people tend to be passionate in almost all areas of their life. In their work, in friendships, in playful activities and they tend to be much more open than others to new experiences or forms of thought.
In doing so, we begin to understand that romantic passion is another facet of people in love with life. Maintaining this view on creative thinking as a lifestyle is not the prerogative of passionate people.
It is indeed possible to develop a passion for life through creativity. Creative thinking can be acquired and trained. Cultivating passion is perhaps one of the best jobs we can do on ourselves. Nothing forces us to resign ourselves to the lost passion. Maybe we just need to rediscover it, recovering that flame we thought was lost.
