Start from scratch in two steps: let's see how to give life to a new existence with the help of a medal.
There is no need to tear the pages of life, just know how to turn the page and start over.
Jim MorrisonIt can happen in life that you feel the need to start from scratch, to start again from a situation that seems to be a dead end or from a path with no satisfactory results for ourselves and for our happiness.
Starting over is not an easy path, both for the past trying to bury us, both for a present that is struggling to take off in the future or worse yet, for a future that we don't even seem to have.
Starting a new life is often the best way to make a clean break with the past and embrace a bright future.
Having said that, let's see how start it all over again with a strategy that combines the two sides of the same coin.
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How to start from scratch
# 1 You start from scratch by building on granite
You have decided to start from scratch but with the past you will certainly have accumulated relationships, adventures, contacts and experiences that you probably cannot value or evaluate objectively.
In this regard, take a look at the article dedicated to things to do before you die.
Even if you are looking to starting from scratch after a disappointment you will have accumulated considerable experience, also the result of your mistakes and above all of your past sufferings.
If, on the other hand, you want to start over from zero to 40 years or more, consider that you can count on an even more substantial experience than that of others.
A very important exercise that I suggest you do right now as you are reading is to grab a pen and paper and get started reflect on your life.
First you have to analyze the need that pushes you to think that you would like to start from scratch: in what point in your life Have you made decisions that you think are wrong and that have led you to some kind of failure that now makes you want to start over?
Try to understand when it happened that bad decisions made you want to start over.
Then mark on a sheet of paper all the experiences, qualities and skills that you have acquired despite the wrong path and that you think may be useful for your future.
For example, dating a person who then turned out not to be the right one, you may have had a lot of experience with relationships; you may have met many important people; or if you haven't hit your ideal job you may have acquired some skills in high demand from the market.
I know you want to skip this step and keep reading the article, but do yourself a favor, do it.
Grab a pen and paper and start writing.
An example of this list could be:
- I met two of the smartest people I know today
- I became a computer expert
- I stopped smoking
- I have radically improved in interpersonal relationships
- I have given up on a limiting belief
- I met my soul mate
- I have become a smiling and cheerful person
- I started playing a sport
- I learned to study well
- I boosted my self-esteem
- I started writing a personal diary
- I moved to London
- I have saved 2.000 Euros
These are just examples, but for sure you have acquired skills and experiences that you may not even think about.
If before you started reading this article you thought you were desperate and had to start from scratch building on quicksand, now you should be well aware that instead you are about to start over building on solid granite.
What you have is your base to start over.
# 2 Starting from scratch with the medal strategy
Now that you have your granite foundation, you can start from scratch by building your future by acting on the present and to do so you can use the medal strategy.
What do I mean when I talk about the medal method?
Surely you know the saying that says that when two elements are complementary they are said to be two sides of the same coin.
To start over we can use this resulting strategy perfect for turning the page and start from scratch.
When I reported the fable that reveals the secret of happiness, we saw that it derives from two sides of the same coin:
- The little everyday pleasures
- A project for the medium to long term
These two factors are the two sides of your happiness: finding small pleasures every day and working on your personal project that can give you great satisfaction.
First identify which shares they give you little happiness every day; sometimes it takes very little, like a walk in the park, a yoga session or a little time spent with someone you love.
Find these little ones pleasures that have no side effects and from which you can only benefit from a physical, mental and relational point of view.
Once this is done you will have found the first side of your happiness coin.
To find the second side of the coin and start from scratch you need a project to dedicate yourself to.
The project you need will have to be a medium-long term goal, let's say from 1 year up to a maximum of 4 years.
To find a stimulating goal that can commit you to happiness, you can use the list you prepared in the first part of the article and pay attention to these two factors.
- Find your constants. Think about what are the activities that recur most frequently in your life, what do you do with greater pleasure that you can convert into a project or a job?
- What can you do. Use the list you have prepared to understand what you can do and what you can lean on to build your future. Your skills are essential to restart, in fact the things we know how to do are the ones that give us the most satisfaction.
Once you have defined your project to work on you will be ready to start from scratch, enjoying life day by day and dedicating yourself to your passion.
I start from scratch: START!
Now that you know the right strategy for start over all you have to do is dedicate the time necessary to start your journey.
Always keep in mind the secret of happiness: an important long-term project to work on and small daily pleasures to indulge in every day.
At this point, if instead of starting from scratch you feel the need to make a total change in your life by making deeper choices, take a look at this article.
