The 6 best topics to talk to a girl

You know what the saying goes: men are from Mars, women are from Venus, and they both speak completely different fucking languages. Well, at least that's what many men will tell you. In fact, I'm pretty sure every man on this planet has had at least a handful of moments when he thought "what the hell am I saying now?" While he was talking to a girl he cared about. I'm sure the same thing happens to you and, don't worry, I've been through it too. So it is good that you are here to discover the best topics to talk about with a girl.

Guys feel anxious before approaching a girl because they fear an awkward silence even more than possible rejection.

When you're trying to attract a woman you're interested in, the conversations you have with her are like playing poker. Her goal is to get her to put as much or more effort into the conversation, because the more you get involved in her conversation, the more you get involved in her interaction.

All great seducers understand this. They know that sharing a great conversation with a woman isn't just about what they say to her. They understand that it is more than what they can make a woman say.

It is this conversational effort that a woman undertakes that will help you find the common ground between the two of you to build a relationship, and help you discover unique aspects of her that you can show genuine attraction to; both are crucial ingredients if you want to escalate the interaction to a romantic or carnal conclusion.

So, in today's article, I want to share with you six conversation starters that I think are more effective than others when it comes to interacting with and attracting women.

One important thing before we start: more important than what you speak is the way you speak. No matter what topic you choose, always keep it fun and playful, trying to make her laugh, without trying too hard. Easier said than done, I know.

Topics to talk to a girl you like

1. Books, movies, music and art

Let's be honest. There is no girl who from the first moment shares with you her deepest hopes, dreams and fears. You will have to build a comfort plan and a collection of experiences before you get there. This is why you need a conversation starter that is undemanding and engaging to start the conversation. Getting a woman to talk about her favorite books, movies, music, or art is a great way to do this.

The trick here, however, is to dig deeper. For example, if a woman tells you that she loves listening to music, don't just ask her what her favorite band is. Ask her for two songs by her favorite band that she thinks you should listen to, and also ask her what those two songs mean to her.

Or if a woman tells you that she loves to read, instead of asking her who her favorite author is, ask her to recommend a book and let her tell you what it is about.

Not only will this allow you to make him put more effort into your interaction, but it will also help you discover things that you both like.

2. Relationships

I swear to you what you want: relationship topics are like the talk drug for most women. And if there's one thing women love more than hearing stories and gossip about relationships, it's finding solutions to relationship problems.

So the next time you hear about your cousin's boyfriend issues or hear your roommate complaining about his overly possessive girlfriend, make a mental note of the story and use it in the conversation. You will be surprised how passionate women can be about these issues.

3. People around you

Sometimes I hear a lot of guys complaining that they don't have any more things to talk about when they're with a girl they're interested in. But the fact is this. If you pay close attention to your surroundings, you'll likely find more than enough conversation starters for a full day of chatting.

For example, there is a fun little game that I like to play with the girls I date. I call it "what's your story." When you're on a date with a girl, you pick a random stranger and talk about how you imagine his story, his private life, his romantic relationships.

And then ask your girlfriend to tell you her version. Once she gets used to this new game, she starts to get more and more imaginative and ridiculous with your stories.

I guarantee you will both have fun.

4 Travel

Whenever I interact with a woman I always try to steer the conversation in a fun and imaginative direction. I hate boring and uninteresting conversations. And if I've learned anything from my experiences with women, it's that talking about travel always makes them feel happy and excited.

You see, people love to travel, and those who can't travel daydream that they have the time or the money to do so. Again, the key is to ask for more than just an impersonal list of travel destinations.

Ask him what was the most exciting place he traveled to and what he liked about it.

Or ask him where he would go if he could just disappear for a whole month without having to worry about his job or other responsibilities.

These types of conversations will cause her fantasy to go into overdrive and put her in a high emotional state; both feelings that he will begin to associate with you.

5. Comments about you

There is a school of thought among some men that teaches attraction skills that a guy should never pay compliments or show interest in a woman. I do not agree. I believe that to truly attract and seduce a woman you have to make her feel like she has conquered you. To do this, you need to discover things about her that are unique and appreciate them. Being curious about women can significantly improve your love life!

You see, a woman's observational skills are often much more finely tuned than a man's, and being with a man who notices things that other men don't normally notice will have a powerful effect on her.

Do you have a sense of fashion that you almost never see in other women? Do you circle the words that you find cute when you read?

Let him know you notice these things and ask him.

And when she tells you these stories, let her know that you find these features attractive.

6. Your passions, your dreams and your goals

Do you remember the last time someone showed a genuine interest in your dreams and goal planning? It's always a good feeling to talk about things you're passionate about with a person who is genuinely interested in those things.

And here's the good thing. Once you've built a certain level of trust and rapport with a woman, all you need to do to find out these things about her is ask.

You see, sometimes being a great conversationalist means learning to become a mirror.

The point is not to grope for things to talk about with your interlocutor.

The point is to learn to develop an idea of ​​what topics excite them and learn to steer the conversation towards those topics.

Summary of topics to talk to a girl:

1. Books, movies, music and art
2. relationships of others
3. people around you
4. travel
5. Observations on her
6. Your passions, your dreams, your goals

Conclusions

Women will be tickled by the genuine interest you show in their life and will remember how you made them feel when you talk about these things they are passionate about.

So keep these conversation starters in mind and make a conscious effort to practice your conversation skills, and I guarantee you'll see a marked difference in the quality of the conversations you share with girls.

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