Last update: April 30, 2022
For a relationship to work, mutual respect is essential. There are many ways and opportunities to show the other that we understand, share or accept their thoughts, feelings and behaviors. But perhaps, of all, the main signal that indicates this is respect for the couple's 3 times: his own, his and that together.
Sometimes, out of monotony, due to the arrival of children, lack of time or pure selfishness, we neglect what we need and opt for "the same as always": the daily abicì. We see ourselves absorbed by haste, obligations and routine, which end up exhausting our own and shared time. However, knowing how to escape from this vicious circle means making sure that the foundations of our love relationship settle down. Let's see what are the times of the couple.
The well-being of a relationship is based on the harmony of the 3 times of the couple.
The times of the couple
The partner's time
Normally one of the most feared phrases is "I need time". If we hear our partner say these words, our warning signals go off. Let's start asking questions: will she have stopped loving me? Will she want to leave me? Have I tired him / her? Will there be another person?
Although sometimes spending a few weeks apart can save the relationship or even reinvent it, the normal thing is that steps are taken first to avoid this borderline situation. To avert this, it is necessary to understand and know your partner.
We can ask ourselves some questions such as: what do you do in your free time? Do you like cycling, reading, walking, shopping? When you are stressed, what do you do to release all the accumulated tension? As a rule, the most difficult thing is not to concentrate on knowing the tastes and needs of the other; but respect them when they are different from ours. And do not interrupt or boycott this space, but make sure that it can have it and use it.
If we know your partner enjoys hanging out with friends and sharing anecdotes, let's encourage them to do so. It is not recommended to get angry, shy or create an unhealthy environment. And, of course, this is not a good time to be jealous or ask to choose between us and you. Doing something different does not mean that you love, it just means that you need that space.
Our time
The times of the couple also include our personal moments. Just as we must respect the partner's spaces, we must also satisfy our individual needs. Let's not make the mistake of depriving ourselves of these moments that make us happy, relax us and have a positive effect on our well-being. If we are not well, we will hardly be able to make our partner feel good.
Routine can be wind, frost, or rain that wears out or erodes the relationship. And even more so if the details that make the difference and strengthen the foundations of the relationship in the face of obstacles and at the same time passing by are not integrated.
In this sense, we see that many people, when they start a new relationship, completely cut or relegate their traditional social circle: friends and family to a corner. If before getting together, everyone had their own party, their own work, their own diversions and moments of distraction ... why when the years go by, there is very little left?
It is extremely important to know how to reconcile life as a couple and the aspects and personal dimensions that make you happy. You can live and enjoy it all and you can even learn to do it, in case there is some obstacle that resists. The secret is to seek and find the balance to grow and, from there, contribute to the evolution of the relationship.
Having decided to embark on a journey together does not mean having to do everything in symbiosis. It is much healthier to feed your energy sources. These recharge us when the partner is going through a complicated period and needs help.
Time together
Relationships are not like a cactus that only needs to be watered a couple of times a month. If we compare them to a plant, it would be ideal to do it with a much more delicate one that needs frequent care and attention. Need take care of them and look after them daily; to the on the contrary, if time passes and no attention is paid to them, they will wither.
One of the most common reasons a relationship ends is the lack of quality time shared. Affection, attention, as well as details and displays of love need not be an exception, but to mark the newspaper of a couple.
But be careful, because quantity is as important as quality. A short period may be preferable during which to share moments, laughter, conversations to find each other and bring out the love that unites.
The well-being of a relationship is based on the harmony between the 3 moments of the couple: his own, his and that together. The goal will be to achieve a balance that makes both of you feel good. And there is nothing better than communication to lay the foundations for this implicit agreement in which the purpose is the common well-being.
