Last update: July 31, 2016
Starting a relationship is always nice because of the adrenaline, the emotions we feel and the perfection we attribute to the partner. With the passage of time, however, everyone can begin to adopt a different role from the one hoped for by the other. It is no longer as wonderful as it was in the beginning and, without either of us realizing it, the plant of love begins to wither.
Love is like a plant that must be watered every day because, if it does not receive enough water, it dries up and withers. Otherwise, when the plant receives too much water, it ends up dying. For this reason, in a couple relationship it is essential to find balance with freedom.
There are some behaviors that favor the withering of the love plant that are implemented almost without realizing it. Trust your intuition and dwell on the signals to be able to understand if radical changes are necessary or, on the contrary, if you enjoy a healthy and balanced love.
“Age does not protect against love. But love protects against age. "
-Jeanne Moreau-
Feed the negativity
A stressful job, not having time to shop, a rude neighbor or a broken refrigerator ... these are all everyday situations that, when added together, make us very negative. A negativity that we will transmit in many areas, but above all to our partner.
Discharging all your negative thoughts on your partner is an exaggerated burden, which he / she does not deserve. The negativity does not disappear, it closes in an emotional backpack that can weigh so much that, in the end, it breaks the back of the wearer. Complaints drown the soul of those who say them and those who listen to them; so, instead of complaining so much, why don't you try to solve the problems?
An occasional negative attitude is not a dangerous threat to the couple, but when every day gets dark and it becomes a way of life, then the plant of love will begin to wither.
Put anything before your partner
Life is often stressful: children, friends, work, hobbies, studying… it seems that anything prevents you from finding a moment to enjoy your life as a couple. What if your partner takes the time to do any activity, except devote himself to you? Then the couple is destroyed, because no partner can stand to always be second choice.
Putting the person you share your life with before, making them feel important, and being able to rely on their opinion are three of the best ways to nurture love. It is not a question of giving up friends, but of dedicating time to everyone and that this is associated with positive emotions, which strengthens the couple in a natural way, leaving out the daily stress.
“True love is not self-love, but what allows the lover to open up to others and to life; she doesn't poison, she doesn't isolate, she doesn't refuse, she doesn't persecute: she accepts. "
To extinguish the flame of passion
Although it is true that in a couple it is essential to be able to communicate honestly, it is also true that passion is an essential ingredient for the relationship to follow a good path and, for this, it's not bad every now and then a little bit of mystery.
Both men and women want and need physical affection from their partner, and when they consistently reject intimacy, problems are imminent. Sex is a wonderful time to bring a couple closer and maximize the emotional bond.
There are days when you don't have enough time or are too tired, but it is important to water the love plant with passion water. Sex and love must go hand in hand for a relationship to work.
If you have a stable relationship, you will probably be surprised to know that, in addition to yourself, you must also take care of the other. Much of your partner's well-being and happiness is conditioned by your choices and actions. For this reason, it is important to be aware that the small things in the couple are the ones that bring great results.
