Last update: June 04, 2015
You know which movie this poster is from, right? This is the famous Vicky Cristina, Barcelona, ​​directed by Woody Allen. The film tells the love adventures of two friends, who arrive in Barcelona and meet a bohemian and romantic artist known as Juan Antonio. From this moment on, yes they will see immersed in a love trio from which it will be very difficult to get out.
The central theme of this film has given rise to all sorts of controversies and various opinions. It really is possible love two people at the same time? The clichés and traditions of the society in which we live state the opposite. We need to look for a partner with whom to marry, have children and be together "until death do us part," as the sacrament of marriage says so well.
However, as we live in a world that is increasingly open to any pre-established taboos and stereotypes, the number of couples who do not they have absolutely no problem admitting that they have casual relationships with other people besides your partner. Many of them, moreover, have been able to love two people at the same time, always getting the approval of the other party.
Does this mean that we are all capable of enduring a similar situation? Nothing further from reality. As is normal, many of us mean the couple as a twosome and you do not accept the fact that third parties may love or want their partner.
Simple attraction
Imagine for a moment that you have been in a relationship that has lasted for ten years and that you love each other very much with your partner, but perhaps not like the first day. Time continues to pass and the relationship falls into routine, more and more tedious. All this is accentuated even more when suddenly cross your path with a new person who "attracts" you. We use quotes because we don't mean there is love, just a strong physical attraction.
First of all, let us emphasize that it is a completely normal situation. We are human and we try and have sexual instincts close to the skin and therefore it is not surprising if you feel attracted to other people. However, not to be confused this simple attraction with falling in love.
Do I really love my partner?
Although there is this initial attraction between two people, many they begin to know each other and they realize that they are not compatible and that they are not made for each other (and this happens even while you already have a steady partner). In fact, many couples almost always break out because third persons appear which, unwittingly, cause the other party to question his old relationship.
This is completely normal. Love is not forever based on the person we meet. We just have to live in the present, but when we think that the relationship has no future (we will have to think very carefully about this), we need to have the dignity enough to face the situation and tell your partner that you no longer feel the same interest as before.
You have to do it for the our own happiness, but also for that of the person we loved and who gave us so much. In this way, we can be happy (or not) with our new love affair.
And you? Do you think it is possible to love two people at a time?
