Last update: July 20, 2016
It is normal to want to overcome some phases of life, to erase them from one's personal history because it seems that, wherever the memory goes, only bitter memories reappear.. Mistakes, mistakes, helplessness. Situations that came too soon, hidden opportunities that we have not been able to grasp or loves that have found their way into us, but to which we have not been able to get close. All with a grain of truth.
Learning from the decisions we have made and being responsible for them allows us to feel free for life. It all begins when we accept who we are, the reasons why we made those decisions and not others. However, there is a part of our culture that invites us to always question our choices, leading us to think that we have always been wrong or that we have not been “good” or “good” enough during our life.
When this happens, we risk falling victim to our own negative beliefs, the ones we have created and nurtured over the years. Thoughts that are like rain, that is, they manage to penetrate the small cracks of our strength to make us waver, to make us deny ourselves. Because to deny our time is to deny ourselves.
That said, we cook our life on a low heat (sometimes on a high heat) with an infinity of ingredients that, little by little, we add to our backpack, to our pot, to our flavor. If we want to taste good, when we remember our life, we can try adding these three ingredients.
What is the use of repenting if this does not erase anything that happened? The best way to repent is to simply change.
Jose Saramago
Tips for enjoying your life
Feel proud of yourself
It is normal to confuse loving oneself and being consistent with one's being and actions at any time with having an inordinate ego or a selfish personality. It may also be that many people try to make us feel inferior to who we are, but we must never forget that we have everything we need to feel proud of ourselves.
When we talk about loving yourself, respecting yourself and loving yourself, it doesn't mean hurting someone else with this attitude, but helping to develop your life.. For this, it is important to stop repenting once the guilt is over. We can learn to live fully and completely and without constraints with the past, but living only in the present and making the most of every moment.
Take the initiative
How many times have you been told that you are "too determined or authoritarian"? Taking the initiative forces us to take action and take the first step, while still others are thinking. Taking a step forward is in many cases a smart decision, otherwise other people will decide for us.
If this happens to you too, remember that there is nothing wrong with being the person who takes the initiative and takes the first step, because there is no more liberating experience than not depending on others to act on what you do. wants. If you want something, take it, start the path that leads you to that goal and try to understand that making mistakes and asking for forgiveness are completely normal things.
Pay attention to expectations
We usually prefer the security of what we already know. For this reason, we are experts in evaluating possible scenarios and discovering what is really best for us. The same thing goes for relationships and the people we love. We like to continually create expectations in both cases just to protect ourselves.
Many times, these "preconceived" ideas do not come true as expected and we begin to feel less than positive emotions, feel bad or have the feeling that we have failed with certain people. Remember that this is a problem of who creates certain expectations, not who has to meet them. The most important thing is to pay attention to what we expect from ourselves. From no one else.
Whether it's to feel proud of yourself, to meet your expectations or not to disappoint those who love you, when you make a decision, always do it with your heart.. This way, you can continue to collect regrets, but they won't be so bitter anymore. Indeed, they will be accompanied by a sweet smile at the memory of the adventure you have experienced.
Thus, life does not stop being an adventure, the only and the most extraordinary. An adventure in which you have been invited to participate and which has given you a lot of resources (maybe less than others, but there are still many) to make it wonderful, slow or lively.
