Last update: April 21, 2015
Without a shadow of a doubt, relationships are fundamental in our life. However, if the personal bonds we have with other people develop in an unhealthy way, they can affect us to a degree that we never imagined. Consequently, a "faulty" or "sick" relationship could cause us damage that is very difficult to heal. Read on if you want to know what the secrets of a stable relationship are.
How to tell if yours is a healthy relationship
While it is often painful, it is very important to avoid relationships that are not healthy. At this point you will ask yourself: "And how do I know if my relationship is healthy?" Pay attention to certain requirements that a relationship should have to be considered "healthy":
1. They trust each other
In a healthy relationship, there is no need for excuses, lies and even less demonstrations ... Without a doubt, good relationships are based on trust. The people involved are sure of the bond they have built and they know that, in the event of any misunderstandings, they could talk openly and look for a way to solve, or not, the problem in question, first of all being sincere with each other.
2. They don't rush the times
It is said that good things are made to wait. This principle can also be applied to a couple relationship. In a relationship you have to live in the present and make the most of it, without worrying too much about the future of the couple. If both people involved trust each other, what reason is there to rush things? Mutual compromise will come naturally, not because a certain amount of time has passed.
3. They make the partner a better person
The relationship does not limit, does not hold back and does not bring out the worst in the people involved. On the contrary, the relationship brings out the best in each person, makes challenges easier and fills with energy to the point that people feel like they can "eat the world"!
4. They accept themselves for who they are
If the people involved trust each other, there's nothing they can't talk about. Both show themselves for what they are, without fear, and that's how they are accepted. As a result, they will never hesitate to say what they think, to thank and accept the mistakes made whenever necessary.
5. They give each other support and support
There is no one side of the scales to carry the full weight of the relationship, neither side is ever empty. A blow can hurt one of the two people, but not both if the other is ready to give her support and support.
6. Everyone has their own personal spaces
Spending time together is important, but sometimes one wants to be alone and there is nothing wrong with that, we all need time to explore and express ourselves as individual beings as we are.. Healthy couples recognize this right of the other and avoid overwhelming him. Nobody should allow themselves to be "canceled" by others.
7. Don't get caught up in the mistakes of the past
People who live in a healthy relationship try to avoid scolding and grudges. They understand that mistakes are nothing more than opportunities to learn and not make them again. That is to say that mistakes, if you learn to take advantage of them, do not end the relationship. On the contrary, they make it more solid and immune to future challenges.
8. They appreciate the little moments
Going to a restaurant or planning a mega anniversary party aren't the only great ideas. Anyone can do these things, but they don't necessarily imply a real connection between the couple. The real challenge in a relationship is to transform every shared moment into a special and memorable moment, every complicit look and every smile into unique and unrepeatable gestures..
A relationship that strengthens day by day
Undoubtedly, if a bond is healthy, it will strengthen over time, in fact it brings together all or most of the requirements mentioned earlier in this article.
A couple who love each other and are well established, will be able to withstand the various tests that life subjects them to and emerge victorious, like a tree with a sturdy trunk capable of facing the most terrible storms.. At certain times it can even stagger, it is natural. However, once the storm passes, it will continue to be there, firm and grounded because its roots are strong and powerful.
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