Last update: October 15, 2015
My home.
It is the refuge against external storms.
It is my rest even in times of war.
My home.
It is the color I always paint with
and wherever I am.
My home.
It is my pause after which to proceed,
it's my favorite place to share.
My home.
It's my today, it's where I give too,
where I make myself heard, where I show who I am.
Mary Bracho
Happy home, healthy people
Taking care of the emotional climate of our home is the solution to grow as people, to feel good and to experience the unconditional love and company typical of family life..
A home is a place where we can be ourselves. However, there is also a great danger, that of "everything is worth it". This means that trust and habits can transport us or make us forget some principles like respect and solidarity.
It is very important to let the heat, respect, self-control and goodness cook slowly inside your home. After all, it's about taking care of your emotions and common well-being. Emotional intelligence is established inside our home and is the best guarantee that ensures a happy life.
Emotional education also becomes even more important when there are children in the home. In fact, it is they who suffer most from the conflicts to which we are used to. For this reason, it is important to talk about our feelings and emotions before they explode and become the antagonists of our family health.
The neighbor's test
Imagine that one day at home you are all angry and you find yourself fighting out of control. Accusations, screams, quarrels ... Tension has invaded your home and you are on the verge of collapse.
Suddenly, someone knocks on the door. He is your neighbor. Immediately, the waters calm down, put away your problems and bad moods, speak with control and kindness and face your neighbor with all the hospitality you know.
When the neighbor leaves, two things can happen: you all start arguing again or everyone resumes their daily activities with normality.
Why do we need a neighbor to control ourselves? Why aren't we able to put the brakes on and act with emotional intelligence?
3 key points to improve the emotional climate in the home
Elsa Punset lists three key points to improve the emotional climate of your home and not lose your temper too easily ...
1. Ask yourself questions and test yourself ...
Are you able to behave with your family as if the neighbor was listening for a whole day? Will you tell your family something that the neighbor shouldn't hear?
As we have said, this is likely to be difficult. Specialists, therefore, recommend follow this advice for at least one day a week as it will help you restore your emotional balance.
2. Pay attention to your expressions and displays of affection
Sometimes, we all need to hear someone speak to us with affection and understanding. Due to stress, routine, and everyday life, we often address our loved ones harshly, which ends up chipping away at the confidence that has been forged and the warmth of home.
3. The priority is joint and individual well-being
Everyone has to take care of everyone. Usually, we prioritize our interests without realizing the pain we can cause with emotional selfishness. It is important to share moments and help each other, day after day. The simple fact of taking an interest in the life of the other is comforting, which prevents the emotional climate we breathe from harming us.
A house is the most important building of our life. Let's take care of it.
Main image courtesy of VĂctor Rivas Fernández, “Of the Light and the Butterflies” (Della Luce e delle Farfalle).
