These have been hard times and many people have been forced to stay away (or still are) from their mothers. It is difficult to have them far away, not to be able to enjoy their company, their hugs. Yet, the affection of a mother always envelops, in every moment.
Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: February 18, 2022
The ups and downs of life can sometimes be like a roller coaster, and on this journey it often happens that a mother must accept that she does not have children by her side, away from home, from the space where it is possible to hug and find each other.
With the arrival of the pandemic and the restrictions, many of us have had to distance ourselves from physical contact, as essential for humans as water and food.
Still, there is one aspect that more or less all of us have discovered about our mothers. They are stronger than we think and even in difficult times they give us courage, they are the ones who make us strong.
Even though we are now independent adults, we have our family and a stable life, a mom is always the pillar, the north of our emotional compass.
Certainly not everyone is lucky enough to be able to count on an illuminating mother figure, able to nourish them emotionally, to help them grow and to guide them so that they can find their freedom, strength and discover their abilities.
However, it often happens that you have other “role models” who, in their own way, manage to fill a similar role: a grandmother, an aunt or even a mother-in-law. Motherhood is not just a question of genetics, but of true love.
A mother can be there even from afar
Knowing how to be present is a skill, an existential art that not everyone knows how to practice. It is the simple fact of being present with the heart and with the mind when sharing a common space, but without diminishing or controlling or suffocating.
It also means knowing how to stay close even if distant, remembering the other person, worrying, dedicating one's thoughts to her despite the distance.
A mother knows how to be there in any situation and circumstance and this makes her unique.
Mothers begin to accept right away that their children are born with invisible wings and it is their responsibility to educate them to be strong and courageous, ready for the day when, without warning, they will spread their wings… Even if this flight will take them far.
It is a law of life: life is given to children, but also a voice of its own, their own way to conquer the world the way they want.
To mature means to learn to live without them, but to miss them every day
Precisely in this lies the mystery that lies behind the mother-child bond. Eventually, you learn to walk alone, in a short time you start making your own decisions and one day you take off.
We know that our happiness lies outside the home and that although letting go of the nest sometimes hurts, this separation is necessary and even fascinating. Growing up is certainly a universe of contradictions.
And so, when a mother finds herself with an empty nest, she doesn't waste time and fills it with new commitments, new projects. She also suffers from that jump and the distance, but she understands it, she respects him.
Because knowing how to be there without being physically present is just that: give their support from a distance, say "I love you" with a message on WhatsApp which will be followed by emoticons, video calls in the afternoon or after work.
Growing up also means this: learning to live far from your mother, but missing her every day ..
A mother is always a point of reference, despite the distance
Nobody comes into this world already knowing how to be a parent. Even a mother makes mistakes, she knows her own imperfections and he knows that on some occasions he could have done better.
Yet, it is driven by the desire to always improve. Motivates us, he is our point of reference for everything he has transmitted to us, because he always tries to be an example for our life.
Therefore, despite the distance that sometimes we must necessarily keep, whether it is for work or for other situations, we always keep his teachings in mind.
In a sense, we are the result of the values ​​our mother passed on to us, of the love he has given us and of the words he has said to us.
Mom, I always want to see you
There are many who live right now with that ever-present, ever-present feeling that it is miss mom, of that part of us from which we are often forced to stay away.
A strange feeling, one that no one can get used to because despite the messages, calls and video calls, there are no hugs, everyday complicity, laughter, endless lunches, eye-to-eye chats.
And the beauty is that in these cases it is she who cheers us up, because mothers have a unique nature; they are made of a paste that is a mixture of goodness and hope, of stainless love and the serenity of a spring afternoon.
They know that nothing is over, that the days of endless hugs are just around the corner. They, who always smile at us despite the storms, are the light that guides us on the way back, the one towards home.
