Last update: Augusts 15, 2016
When a person is sad, we tend to suffocate them with questions about what happened to them, what made them feel this way, how they are, how can we cheer them up, etc. Despite this, sometimes, a pair of sad eyes just need to ask fewer questions and give more hugs.
When we are sick and see ourselves enveloped in a storm of sadness, our mind and body need emotional support. of our friends and people who love us.
Sadness is a useful and basic emotion, able to improve the empathy of others towards the sad person; it thus promotes emotional support for those who need an arm to hold onto.
The normality and validity of sadness
Very often we don't need words to cheer us up, but patient hearts to listen to us and that they give us a hug when we face an emotionally complicated moment.
This means that the best way to help a sad person is to simply offer our presence, without the need for words, by putting a hand on his shoulder and looking at him with an affectionate and sincere look.
There are times when words are too many and the only thing we need is to find some peace of mind, to be able to breathe and put our thoughts in order. After all, sadness is a means that facilitates introspection.
“Our society tolerates less and less any kind of suffering or discomfort. Often the need to be happy makes it impossible to live with sadness ”.
-NarcĂs CardonĂ©s-
Sadness: the beating of a universal language
Sadness is the emotion of pain, loss and hurt. An experience that, despite being negative, is healthy for us, because it helps us to become aware of everything that surrounds us.
This emotional experience grows and is maintained when we feel we are alone, because in these cases the discouragement increases and turns into a mountain with steep slopes that it is difficult for us to accept and that can become a real pathology, triggering an emotional state. unhealthy.
Hugging a pair of sad eyes is a symbol of welcome and support for the world we live in, for the shared struggle and emotional support.
Embrace the demons who have something to tell us
Blocking one's emotions is a serious mistake. This is what films like Inside Out teach us. In the specific case of sadness, this feeling helps us in the process of demotivation created by reflection, analysis and recalling of affectionate behaviors towards us.
For this reason, by denying sadness and avoiding showing it, we lose it all, letting us miss the opportunity to receive a long and loving hug to help us remember that we are not alone.
Society, made up of recipes for happiness, obliges us to always be happy and does not allow us to suffer, because it is seen as abnormal and negative behavior. Sadness is thought to take us to unwanted places and, eventually, we fall into the trap of excessive desire.
For this reason, a hug without questions helps us to normalize the idea of ​​sadness which, after all, we must accept. Being in an environment that does not judge or despise us for our emotional state is essential to regain self-confidence.
There are hugs that help us put the broken pieces of our heart back together, accepting that our life has as many nuances as there are different circumstances and understanding that our emotions must remain outside that supermarket of reasons and recipes.
