Last update: 19 March, 2016
Each of us has their own tastes, passions and preferences, which arise and develop over the course of life. Someone prefers to listen to music, someone else to read, others like to dance or stroll. A universe of possibilities opens up before us so that we can choose what we like best. But what happens when love suddenly appears in our life? Where do our passions and our interests end up? Do they disappear or remain? What is better? Today we offer you a short film to reflect on this.
"The balance lies in the ability to respect oneself and others".
(Walter Laughs)
Suddenly, love comes
It may be that what happens to the protagonist of this short film will happen to you: that you really enjoy practicing a sport or that you have a hobby, and that you cannot imagine your daily life without dedicating time to your passion. Your routine is marked by this pastime, and you cannot conceive of the idea of ​​living without it.
However, suddenly, love can show up in your life without warning, and upset its structure. Not only that: in your eyes now there is that person who, without knowing it, has broken all your patterns, to offer you something new and wonderful to live together: love.
Together you build a beautiful story, full of things to share, wonderful experiences and inimitable moments. Struck by the effects of falling in love, your daily life has changed since you met.
Maybe you don't spend so much time on your hobbies anymore, or you just forgot about them; the effect of falling in love causes your thoughts to continually focus on the other person and the desire to spend more time with them. For now, falling in love has blinded your routine.
Love is made up of two people, but one must never stop being oneself
Of course, when we are in love, we change, as we see each other in an idealistic way and spend time dreaming of experiences and moments when everything seems wonderful. However, we must be careful and get off this pink cloud, otherwise, over time, the blow of the fall will be stronger.
While falling in love, not idealizing is next to impossible, but one must be careful not to remain in this state for a long time. The day you realize that that person is not what you think, the frustration will be great, and the burning disappointment.
Another aspect to take into consideration is that when you find love, you don't have to try to be who you are not. In a relationship, you have to be honest and transparent, despite your fears. You cannot abandon your identity just because you want to please the other, since in this way, you will commit a double betrayal: the first and most important towards yourself and the second towards the other. In both cases you would become invisible beings.
Invisibility and a willingness to show oneself as perfect individuals are not good ingredients for building a relationship.
In love, what makes you shine is your authenticity, your transparency in your eyes and the fact that you can show each other both your lights and your shadows. This is how, then, you can hold hands along the path that you build little by little. The most important thing is that you stay true to yourself so that the other person can really get to know you.
This aspect seems not to be taken into consideration by the protagonist of the short film, who does the opposite: he puts aside one of his passions to make his other half happy. And you, what would you be able to give up for love?
In love, it is also important to be empathetic
If you pause for a moment to reflect on love, perhaps you could change your view on the short film and connect it to the power of empathy in a relationship.
In the couple, empathy is a very strong ally that plays in favor of the relationship.
In a relationship, being empathetic with your partner allows you to enter their world emotional and to understand how she feels on certain occasions. This will serve as an indicator to know how to act and how to communicate with each other. Putting yourself in your mate's shoes will strengthen your bond if you put in the effort.
In this short film, the hen is sensitive and sad when she realizes that her mate likes eggs, from which she comes; unassuming, with just a small gesture, he understands her feelings and decides to stop behaving in a way that could hurt her partner.
Relationships are complicated, but that doesn't make them not beautiful. The important thing is to grow together without ceasing to be yourself, with flexibility and without any categorical pretensions, with understanding and not with rigidity.
