Last update: December 03, 2015
Love has always been talked about a lot. It has more definitions, but the central question goes beyond its content: love is something you feel, so words can do little to describe it.
There are romantic loves, wild loves, fleeting loves, eternal loves ... True loves. It all depends on how people who are under its effects experience its fire and how hard they work to build it.
Yes, build it. Because love is born suddenly, but maintaining it is a task for two people, which undertake to continue under its effects, growing individually and together. The short film that we propose today can be useful for you to understand this concept.
One love, one meeting
Maybe the same thing happened to you with the protagonists of the short film presented here, "Taking pictures", that is, you met love suddenly, at first sight or maybe your love was the result of a slow acquaintance between you and a ' other person.
Either way, the point is that your love has been strengthened in every encounter you have experienced. The first few times they overflowed with emotion and enthusiasm, overwhelmed by falling in love, your only thought was to see you again. The hours between meetings seemed eternal, just like in the short film.
"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemicals: a reaction is produced so that both will be transformed."
(Carl Gustaf Jung)
Little by little, however, all these excessive emotions have begun to fade to strengthen something more solid, without frills or artifices: a true love and authentic. We are talking about that pleasant and enriching everyday life that has its ups and downs, but which also symbolizes the desire to be together.
Love and relationship building
You have not come to this point only thanks to the power of love and its powerful magic. You are the architects of your relationship more than you think. You grew up together strengthening the relationship, thanks to the secret of love.
What is the secret of love? The fact that you do not know it does not mean that you were not the creators or creators of it. The wisdom of wanting to maintain the relationship is inherent in each of you and, therefore, also in what you have built.
“To love is not only to love, it is above all to understand”.
(Françoise Sagan)
The secret of the duration and vitality of your genuine love lies in your effort, in the dedication to build your relationship one step after another, day by day, in the desire, in the challenge of being together despite the storms, in the support you give each other during the dark and needy moments, in the flavor of the moments happy.
Your love finds its basis in the commitment to grow together under the influence of this feeling; you are the builders of your relationship and your working tools are, of course, constant commitment and feelings.
Because the magic of the first meetings, despite being radiant and incredible, full of passion and emotions that overwhelm us, is not enough to start an authentic and healthy relationship; it can fade over time.
In love we aim for the same goal
Now that you know what the secret of love is, which is needed to build a relationship, you cannot forget another important aspect: in love you aim for the same goal.
Each of us has his own tastes, his peculiarities, his values, his way of working and being and, within a relationship, individuality must be respected. However, in love you aim for the same goal: the relationship itself.
“To love is not to look at each other, but to look together in the same direction”.
(Antoine de Saint-Exupéry)
This means that, in addition to respecting the intimacy of each of the two partners, there must be an agreement on the direction in which one is proceeding. It is not possible to grow together if the paths, desires and visions of life have no point in common.
The short film is a metaphor. The protagonists suddenly meet, warm and enthusiastic, each with an individual goal: to capture the beauty of a dove through photography; this, then, becomes their common goal.
In this lies the wisdom of a relationship, in knowing how to be yourself in two, to build a love aiming at the same goal: the relationship itself.
