Last update: July 26, 2018
Tom Robbins states that "it is never too late to have a happy childhood". However, if we detect signs of affective deficiencies in children, it is important to remedy them. Because no child deserves to have a constant need for the food that nourishes him most emotionally: love.
What are the signs we need to watch out for? How to understand if a child has emotional deficiencies? Below we will discover some clues that could warn us of this situation so not very constructive and desirable. Let's go deeper.
The need for affection in children
Adequate psychological development in children requires affection. In other words, all the affection that is given to a child in his infancy will be reflected in adequate maturation. In this way he will have a clear idea of ​​his identity and will feel confident over the years.
It is not to confuse affection with excesses of effusions or with spoiling a child. We are talking about affection, the affinity one has towards children, a sincere approach and, of course, the intention to create a healthy and full relationship with them.
If the little one receives the necessary affection, it will consolidate his personality. The emotional experiences will help him integrate, find frames of reference and learn to act in different circumstances.
It must also be remembered that from the affection that the child receives in his most intimate environment, will learn what can you expect from the outside world. Reason why it serves as the basis that children need to learn to know and relate to each other.
"The best way to educate children is to make them happy."
-Oscar Wilde-
Signs of emotional deficiencies in children
The signs of affective deficiencies in children usually indicate that something is not working well in the relationship with the parents. It can be the consequence of one failure knowledge on the part of the parents regarding the real needs of the child.
This can cause various types of problems during development. For example, some children with emotional deficiencies they will develop confrontational or aggressive behavior or a great feeling of insecurity or distrust. This is why it is so important to learn to detect the following signs of affective deficiencies in children.
Lack of emotional control
It is a fundamental signal, very common in children with emotional wounds. The little ones gradually learn to control their emotions thanks to love and interpersonal relationships in their closest circle.
A child who grew up in a poor emotional environment will serious problems recognizing not only their own emotions, but also social norms. This way, of course, she won't know how to behave correctly with others.
No will not even be able to recognize the emotions of the people with whom he relates, both negative and positive ones. Because of this, he will show a great lack of empathy, which could cause several unnecessary fights and anger.
These children they are much more vulnerable, even if they don't show it. This problem is usually found more in males than in females. The former, in fact, are usually educated to be strong and repress their emotions. If we suspect that our child may be suffering from this problem, we need to improve our communication.
Isolation and conflict
Another sign of emotional deficiencies in children is evident from the relationships they establish with other people. If they are mainly relationships dominated by conflict or if they do not even have relationships with other people, it is clear that there is a problem.
It is very common for a child with emotional problems to exhibit poor social skills which lead to isolation or even to establish conflicting relationships.
On the other hand, the little ones with emotional problems they show little respect for the emotions of others. This exacerbates their frustration, lack of understanding of others and anger towards the world.
Insecurity
Children with emotional deficiencies tend to show a strong insecurity. This is because they have not enjoyed an optimal development from which to create an adequate concept of themselves.
This insecurity is demonstrated through specific behaviors. For example, tend to self-defense, to avoid facing difficult situations, to withdraw and isolate themselves, or to try directly to control or create conflicts.
“We are all products of our childhood”.
-Michael Jackson-
Lack of affection in childhood can have several negative consequences. If you notice that your child or any other child is showing any of these symptoms, you must try to connect with his feelings and show him that you care about his well-being.
