Last update: June 23, 2016
Falling in love is for many a carousel of nervous emotions that are difficult to order. It is an intense chaos of happiness interrupted, at times, by the most unbearable of sadness. A reality that can be even more intense for the so-called highly sensitive people (HSPs).
We remember that highly sensitive people represent 20% of our population and have a series of psychological and emotional peculiarities that differentiate them from others.
Characteristics of highly sensitive people
The vision of the world of people with high sensitivity starts from the heart itself and even if it can be considered a gift, at times, said aura does not bring true happiness.
These people are intuitive, creative, able to perceive the emotions of others in all their nuances, but this in turn makes them more reactive, i.e. that feel more affected and hurt in certain situations than other people.
Highly sensitive people often prefer to be alone, they prefer solitary activities through which to appreciate the world in its authentic reality.
They have their own rhythm, their own time, very different from the accelerated materialism of others, to which they do not always feel they belong.
They are observational, intuitive, precise, self-demanding and have a very low pain threshold. Noises disturb them and it is common to see even children who are hurt by certain clothing and even contacts or voices.
As we can see, highly sensitive people have a more refined view of reality, but at the same time this gift, this aspect of character makes them much more vulnerable, especially in love ...
Relations between HSP and non-HSP people
Assuming that HSPs are 20% of the population, it is very easy for them to have relationships with non-HSPs, that is, non-highly sensitive people.
There are highly sensitive people who have decided that it is better to be alone because of incompatibilities, because of the suffering that comes with it.
There are cases where this accumulation of feelings or emotions generates a high level of stress and anxiety in them which results in physical pain. A pain so unbearable that it led them to think that it is better "not to fall in love".
However, it must also be said that highly sensitive people fall in love with ease. Their virtue of appreciating people in all their nuances leads them to feel immediately attracted and filled by this comforting energy which is physical and emotional attraction.
However, they run serious risks to take into account:
The personality differences between HSP and non-HSP people
If you are a highly sensitive person, you may gradually realize that your partner does not appreciate the same things as you. He does not come to the same emotional and intellectual depth as you do.
This, at times, will make you feel frustrated and in need of certain demonstrations that your partner simply cannot offer you or is unable to see or guess. Usually they are so different personalities that it is normal for disillusionment, misunderstanding ...
If you are a HSP person, you need to be aware that others may not always meet your needs and be on the same level as you.. A great suffering often arises from all this.
The HSP people and their great affection
Another common reality is that the highly sensitive person has difficulty in keeping an eye on his own personal limits and tends to offer himself completely to the other person, forgetting about himself.
It is a very big risk. Obviously it is wonderful to achieve this symbiotic union thanks to which we offer all our affection, all our emotions, our time and our experiences to the loved one. For highly sensitive people, nothing is more comforting.
However, you have to protect yourself and respect certain limits. If we give everything to the other person, we lose our identity and we will be more vulnerable to any deception, to any affront, any difference.
Little by little, frustration and disenchantment can emerge, dimensions that for a person with such sensitivity can be very destructive.
Any failure or disillusionment is experienced in a very traumatic way at all levels, both physical and mental, running the risk of falling into depression.
Being a highly sensitive person can be a virtue
This must be borne in mind. Being a HSP person can be a virtue, a gift. However, in reality it does not stop being an aspect of the personality that requires self-knowledge, knowing how we are and what hurts us to establish limits within which we can protect ourselves.
It must be understood that the rest of the people do not feel the same, they do not see with the same eyes ... but even so, they will still be able to love you and offer you the happiness you deserve.
Maintain a good level of self-esteem by enjoying who you are and who you are. It is possible that this sensitivity is sometimes synonymous with suffering, but this is not always the case.
The more you understand your nature, the more you will see yourself capable of surviving in this reality that, at times, does not shine with all the sensitivity it should.
