Last update: February 26, 2015
There are situations in life that all of us at one time or another are "forced" to live. Disappointments with friends, the first love sufferings, infidelity, lies, loss of job. All these circumstances, which are potentially negative, can have a positive side if we learn to learn the right lessons, so that we are ready and prepared if we find ourselves reliving them. However, there are many people who are unable to get out of the tunnel. Are you in this situation? In this article we will give you some simple tips that can help you overcome the emotionally negative moments you are going through in your life..
Self-compassion leads nowhere
Imagine for a moment that you are estranged from your partner or that you have lost your job. In the beginning, it is normal to blame the other for feeling better. However, it is clear that it is useless to complain about what has happened and not even to permanently cover the role of victim. Self-criticism can be of great help in these moments, understanding what you did wrong to correct your mistakes and not repeating them in the future.. Many people should ask themselves these questions: “What have I done wrong? What can I improve on? ”.
In this way, you will be able to have a complete view of your problem and it will be easier to overcome it or find a solution as quickly and painlessly as possible.
Are you open to change?
There are people who have a certain predilection for past moments over present or future ones. Usually, they become people who yearn for the old days with a certain frequency. And often, together with the past, they also want superficial things that are condemned to disappear with the simple passage of time. But what happens when these things are gone? That moments of sadness are more common than those of happiness.
This happens when two people break up and one of them says to the other: “I don't feel what I felt before”, “There is no longer the same passion as in the past…”. Not everything remains unchanging in the past and then continues in the present. Sometimes you have to accept new changes as they come and know how to adapt to situations, like chameleons. If this is not achieved, there will be other opportunities to do so.
Ultimately, change is a present in the life of all of us and if we learn to adapt, perhaps we will feel stronger, both physically and emotionally. Buddhist thought deepens the concept of change and makes it one of its "four noble absolute truths".
Buddhism states that to be happy one must not be a slave to "attachment". That is to say, we cannot always miss those feelings or experiences that have made us happy in the past. If we can simply remember past moments as a finished stage in our life, it will be much easier to be happy and open new doors to better experiences..
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