Last update: January 05, 2017
It will be the consequence of living in a society in which everyone compares themselves to everyone, but I have often heard myself say "you are not good enough", "you will not succeed". I could already see my failure before I even started.
This has happened to me on some important occasions in my life, but also in other minor ones, which in the end are the ones that hurt the most because they are more constant. That's how I came to feel that I wasn't good enough to achieve my goals.
“You have to believe in yourself. That is the secret. Even when I was in the orphanage and walked the streets looking for something to eat to survive, even then, I considered myself the greatest actor in the world. Without total self-confidence, we are doomed to failure ”.
(Charlie Chaplin)
But are all these feelings true? If you've ever felt like me, I'll tell you no. The consideration you have of yourself is not real: you are worth more than you think, you know more than you think and you are more important than you imagine.
You are worth, you know, you are important
Although it hasn't always been clear to me, now I know that the belief that I can do something is all that can lead me to do it; the starting point is necessary and essential. So I was able to understand that being sure of myself made me a person capable of taking risks and fighting against her fears.
The desire to arrive must be stronger than the fear of making a mistake, because there is nothing that "is not suitable for us". Cultivating negative thoughts about myself never got me anywhere. This is how I learned that remaining in doubt, self-pity and shame is nothing more than a way to get away from our goals.
"Your desire to succeed must always prevail over your fear of failure."
(Bill Cosby)
What is certain is that the mind can lie to us. Not only does he do this, but he is also very proficient in this practice. Can make us believe we're losers, incapable, clumsy or incompetent, when it is not true. If we give ourselves the opportunity, we will discover that we have more qualities than we believe and that it is precisely these that make us special for those around us.
I remain true to myself
Some of the doubts about my worth, which have undermined my self-esteem, have emerged in the face of very complex challenges. Others manifested when certain people left my life and I didn't understand the real reason. I ended up pleading guilty to this estrangement, because this explanation was perfectly in tune with the sadness I felt.
Eventually I realized that the cause wasn't that I wasn't worth enough to be in their lives, but that for some reason our time was over. If we are not ourselves, who should we be? If not now, when?
“Life is not easy for any of us. But what does it matter? You have to persevere and, above all, believe in yourself. You need to feel gifted to achieve that particular purpose, which must be achieved at any cost "
(Marie Curie)
You have to persevere, you have to love yourself and believe in yourself. We must be our best friends, not enemies who doubt our chances. There are already enough people who want us to believe they are clueless. Time to clear our throats and scream what we're worth! Let's give ourselves a chance.
Thoughts that will not allow you to underestimate yourself
Even though loved ones have told us so many times that we are worth, sometimes we have gray days and we need to hear it again. Who can remind us better than us? Here are some things you can repeat to yourself when self-confidence is low:
- I can always love myself more than I can hate me.
- No one can make me feel inferior without my consent.
- I have to expect certain things from me before I can do them.
- I will speak to myself as I would speak to a person I love.
- There are more beautiful things in me than bad.
Always remember that strong and solid self-confidence will help you channel criticisms and failures in a healthy way, reducing their harmful impact. It will also allow the shots to leave shallower wounds and have solid pillars that can hold up any project you want to start.
