Last update: May 21, 2016
Coffee and good friends and the problems go away. The magic of these cathartic moments is engraved in the simple gesture of conversing with a friend, taking advantage of the moment and giving vent to our tension while we enjoy the ritual of a hot drink, which in turn has a positive effect on our brain.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, one of the best-known psychologists in the field of happiness, says that even though we spend our hours surrounded by people and are in constant contact with technology and thousands of other stimuli, we feel more alone than ever. We have "disconnected" from happiness by forgetting the value of good times occurring, for example, around a table full of friends and cups of coffee.
You don't have to wait for good times to be happy. Begin to be happy, let the calm and balance flow away from you and the good times will come by themselves.
The moments of relaxation that we derive from Social rituals, such as going out for a drink, actually play a very important role: they create emotional bonds. Coffee, tea or a dinner with friends become positive experiences aimed at stimulating our brain chemistry by increasing our communication skills, freeing us from stress and, in short, storing a positive memory in our emotional memory.
We invite you to reflect on this.
Good times are worth more than bad ones
Memories that we store in our memory labeled "emotionally positive" will take longer to fade than those considered negative. Positive moments have the power, transcendence and authentic ability to elevate our self-esteem. It is not us who say it, but an interesting study carried out at the University of Limerick, Ireland.
The great madnesses leave good memories, because they are the reflection of open minds, of reckless hearts that live in the "here and now".
According to the study, slightly unpleasant events tend to disappear from memory thanks to a simple defense mechanism activated by our brain. To adapt to the changes, we must quickly process the negativity; it's the positive memories that help us move forward, to make possible the positive attitude that drives us and stimulates us every morning.
Well, a phenomenon that happens to us more and more often is that of unplugging from reality, from the here and now. We waste our days with activities that could be defined as "sustenance": we get dressed, take the car or the subway, go to work, go back ... We live in a hurry, but at the same time disconnected from our inner voice and from the reality in which sensations and emotions take shape.
Therefore, we do not limit ourselves to living "bad moments", rather we favor a "neutral and aseptic life flow" that completely distances us from a feeling of happiness. It's like trying to catch water with your hands and not feeling it. Let's find out together how to overcome this condition.
The pleasure of sharing positive moments makes us "more present"; as already mentioned, every positive experience acts on us by creating a cognitive and emotional reserve that makes us stronger and paves the way for us to authentic happiness - the one that lies in the little things of every day, therapeutic for the mind and heart. Put these tips into practice.
