Last update: June 30, 2017
If there is something that has changed dramatically in recent times, it is certainly the way to establish emotional relationships. Courtship, for example, is an endangered species or has already become extinct in some cases. The culture of speed to the bitter end has invaded even the most unsuspected terrains and, among these, that of love.
Precisely "Rapidity of approach" is one of the defining characteristics of a large number of current relationships. It seems that courtship is no longer necessary. And yet there are many couples who are tired of the lack of emotion and magic. In other words, the lack of romance.
"Love does not need to be understood, it only needs to be demonstrated".
-Paulo Coelho-
Courtship is not exclusive to the human being. Most animal species have courtship rituals. Although instinctively they mate in order to guarantee the continuity of the species, they do not carry out this act without preamble. The function of this courtship is to communicate, synchronize and biologically prepare the soil with the aim of promoting fertility as much as possible.
Among humans, on the other hand, courtship has lost a lot of prestige. It is not considered necessary. The delivery is: “we get what we want”. There is no longer the love conquest in the strictest sense of the term, but some cross signals that give rise to a relationship whose destiny is almost always ephemeral. Quite often, you're not even sure you like yourself. What are those typical gestures of courtship that are about to disappear today? Here are a few.
Flowers, a classic of courtship
Flowers are a universal language and are an essential part of love courtship. When someone receives flowers as a gift, without it being a special occasion or an important anniversary, they also receive a clear message of love. They are a compliment and, at the same time, an elegant way to express interest.
Giving flowers is a brave gesture nowadays. For many they are useless and some may even reject them, perhaps an apparent refusal, because it is difficult to see such a precious gift with a bad eye.
Let's say it is a courageous gesture because they represent a point of reflection: they openly declare their love interest in the other and, therefore, their own vulnerability.
Cell phones are not romantic
There is so much fear of rejection that many seek pretexts to indirectly express their interest in someone. Mobile phones fit perfectly in this regard. They allow you to maintain intermittent attention. Hopefully, the electronic tool is ignored; if tensions arise or things do not go the right way, they cast their eyes on the cell phone, to escape from the situation.
Turning off the phone and putting it aside can be a nice flirting gesture. It means placing all one's interest and attention towards the person in front of us. It also means not playing hide and seek and knowing what you want. When you want to win someone, there is nothing better than letting them know that they are important to you.
What are we becoming?
It is currently common for two people involved in a love affair not to know exactly what kind of bond unites them. It is assumed that you will see over time and that naming the relationship you have somehow limits your possibilities or presupposes a commitment. However, this is not a good idea, as there is no worse ground for misunderstandings.
Expressing a direct interest in someone does not mean going along with their expectations. In reverse, Defining the relationship clearly avoids having reasons to feel anxious or to formulate wrong conjectures. Expressing what you want from a bond is a way to generate trust and allow everything to flow spontaneously.
The beautiful word
A "I like you" doesn't always express what you really feel or want and it doesn't even say much to the person who listens to it. It is one of those standardized expressions that summarize the idea of ​​wanting to be in a relationship with a person, but that carry no further meaning than that.
Beautiful words, meaningful ones, never go out of style. Many people sincerely admire the other, but they do not say it because they are not used to expressing themselves, because they are afraid of exceeding or because they fear that the other will assume a position of power. This fear shouldn't exist. During courtship, nice words should be constant. They nurture, nurture and make the relationship magical.
Courtship gives a special atmosphere to the relationship, which is what makes it important. It is not only a precedent that makes the relationship magical, but also fixes affectionate and respectful gestures in the bond. Redeem that tenderness that is really good for all of us, especially in this age of little affection. For this reason, courtship is perhaps one of those habits that is worth recovering.
