Last update: February 16, 2020
Every day of our life is the fruit of what we carry with us. Even if we eliminate from our consciousness the events that have already occurred, they all remain present in the person we are today and in the person we will be tomorrow. This is why it is so important to heal the emotional wounds of the past.
Emotional wounds are very similar to physical ones. If they heal and heal, they leave a scar, but they never hurt again. On the other hand, if they are not treated properly, they will be annoying. They can reopen or even get worse.
"When we heal the memories of our life, the present looks different."
-Bernardo Stamateas-
Many think that it is enough to forget what happened, not think about it or not give it importance. However, simply deciding to do so is not enough. In practice, all the emotional wounds of the past are maintained through an unconscious process. Let's analyze three emotional traces that can continue to gravitate around our life and affect it in a negative way.
1. Emotional wounds related to self-esteem
Self-love is sometimes seriously challenged by past experiences. The different forms di rejection generate suffering, regardless of the conditions in which they occur. They hurt any human being.
When this rejection is systematic, has occurred at an early age or comes from much loved figures, it becomes an emotional trauma that is difficult to heal.. Being made fun of, being ridiculed, belittled, constantly criticized or blamed for no reason: these are all situations that cause damage to those who suffer them.
Damage to self-esteem can weigh on for a lifetime. In some cases, they are emotional wounds that never completely heal. However, with proper preparation, it is always possible for them to stop being a boulder on confidence in themselves, about assertiveness and a sense of optimism towards life.
2. Emotional wounds associated with autonomy
The emotional wounds related to autonomy concern those situations in which excessive control has been exercised over the person. The usual situation is that some figure with power over one individual has exercised arbitrary dominion, thus damaging the personal autonomy of the other.
These wounds correspond to all those actions aimed at limiting freedom and the ability to decide. They occur when a person is frequently corrected and punished for unclear reasons. And even when you are constantly frowned upon or required to report down to the smallest detail of your actions. Likewise, when one is treated as a useless or incapable person.
These emotional wounds from the past they create many difficulties when taking the initiative or deciding on different aspects. They make the person submissive and passive, or on the contrary extremely rebellious for no apparent reason.
3. emotional wounds related to affection
The emotional wounds that carry the most weight are those of affection, that is when the person was a victim of abandonment, emotional distancing or isolation. Parents inflict these wounds. They themselves may have been victims of similar practices and repeat them with their children without being fully aware of it.
Injuries related to lack of affection lead the person to feel immensely alone in many circumstances. Particularly in those where she feels vulnerable. It generates the perception of not being important to anyone. It also creates the idea of ​​being little understood or accepted.
These affective wounds also generate serious consequences. The main consequence is that you become a highly personable person employee from others. You always need to get the approval of others. You try to please others, sometimes even forgetting about yourself. The mood is very variable, according to the attitude of others.
All these emotional wounds from the past hinder life. They usually block growth and evolution in one or more aspects of the personality. For this reason, it is very important to settle the account with that past that sometimes weighs too much on the everyday life of the present. The path to get there is a process of reflection that leads to becoming aware of what has happened and the impact it has had.
