Last update: October 23, 2015
We are our climate,
we decide the color of the sky within the emotional universe
we live in.
Fulton J. Sheen
At certain moments in life, we can find ourselves emotionally stuck, unable to express what we feel inside. It is possible that we do not even know how to recognize our state of mind and that we perceive it as a ghost whose figure we are unable to outline.
The point is that, for various reasons, emotions are imprisoned at certain moments in our lives. As if they were locked in a cage, with no possibility of exit, and at the same time they generate a discomfort so intense within us that it affects our body and the relationships we have with others.
Has this ever happened to you?
Think about it for a moment ...
Perhaps you have spent months in sadness without releasing it with tears, without expressing it and without sharing it. Perhaps you have felt powerless in the face of a situation that you considered unfair, but you have not done anything, you have not been able to express anger following a deception, you have not expressed your joy for fear of hurting someone or you simply had the feeling of not being know how you felt, what you wanted or where you were going.
You have kept it hidden, you have embraced poison in the same way that a person keeps a treasure.
Whatever the situation or experience you have gone through, you have not been able to or have not been able to fully express yourself, you have repressed your emotions. They were like trapped, blocked and accumulated within you with no way out.
Keeping emotions inside means carrying a dangerous emotional load that often has repercussions on the body as well.
We need to deepen ...
If we stop knowing or experiencing what we feel, more or less consciously, then we break the connection with ourselves.
Emotions are necessary and it is useful to experience them. It is very important to allow ourselves to express emotions because they are a tool to get to know ourselves better and understand what we need.
What happens is that most of the time we learn from an early age to repress emotions, they teach us that they are dangerous and that is why it is normal to deny them or keep them under control. So we learn from childhood to stop experiencing our emotions and send them into our unconscious.
However, if the emotions are not expressed, they are not overcome either. Somehow they remain inside us, in our body, they invade us.
The problem is that trapped emotions can also become a way of being or of dealing with life. The adult normalizes his emotional block as a defensive and protective measure to avoid pain.
We move away from what we feel and thus believe that we are not responsible for it. We turn a deaf ear when our inner voice is heard, we put on autopilot and deny emotions
Even if feeling emotions is scary, even if we struggle to express what happens to us on an emotional level or we do not want to feel pain, it is essential to do so to feel good.
As we have said, the problem is that we hold in or repress what we feel, that we do not recognize our wounds and live as if we are under anesthesia or are sleeping.. Feelings, emotions are pure energy and if we don't express them, we are left without.
From time to time, especially when important circumstances arise, it is not wrong to ask ourselves how we feel and reflect for a few minutes showing total sincerity towards ourselves.
It is necessary to accept our full range of emotions in order to fully enjoy life, while being careful not to express them in an exaggerated way.. The secret lies in balance, in finding an intermediate point.
It is not so much the intensity with which we express our emotions, as being aware of the fact that these emotions are a signal, a clue to what is happening inside us.
