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Last update: December 14, 2021
According to the Uruguayan writer Eduardo Galeano, “the most truthful language is the feeling-thinking one, and the best people are those who can think with feelings and reason at the same time.
He himself said that he loves “feeling-thinking” people, that is, those who “do not separate reason from heart. Who feel and think at the same time. Without divorcing the head from the body or the emotion from reason. "
We can also try hard not to, but it is natural to act according to both the logic of the heart and that of the mind. We are one, we think and feel at the same time, and this is how we face reality.
Managing what we feel is essential to remember what we deserve
“Feel-think” is how we relate to love and friendship, to the delusions and joys of life, to our angels and our demons. We cannot separate these two parts of us or keep our senses away from our thoughts.
When we find ourselves in the middle of a complicated relationship, we cannot be guided only by what we feel. Sometimes we have to put aside what we feel to better evaluate what we deserve.
Yet, in any decision and event in our life, our emotions and feelings will always have an impact. Thank goodness, otherwise we would be robots!
The feeling-thinking sensitivity, at the base of empathy
There are people with a greater "feeling-thinking" sensitivity than others. And some even consider that sensitivity is not an advantage but a danger, given that in today's world those who are guided by emotions and are too sensitive are easily devoured by circumstances.
For this reason, it is necessary to reflect, because in order to feel alive and flowing at the same time, it is essential to know how to think, but also to feel. How could we raise our children by only prioritizing logic? And how can we love if we only give importance to reason?
There are those who believe that putting reason first, over emotion, is a sign of strength, because emotions and sensitivity do nothing but make us weak and vulnerable. Nothing could be more wrong, because what really makes us great is the combination of both.
Maintaining a "feeling-thinking" philosophy is the best way to embrace life and understand who we really are. In fact, the "feeling-thinking" people are those who are more charismatic and who have a greater ease of connection with the surrounding environment.
A "feeling-thinking" person is a balanced person who offers others the confidence, good intentions, emotional intelligence, power and strength to spread his wings and confidently move towards his purposes.
“Feeling-thinking” people are the ones who grasp the importance of small details the most, in all aspects of life. They understand that our existence would be meaningless without the bonds that unite us and make us respect each other.
“We all act with the heart, but we also use the head. When we combine the two, we are feeling-thinking. "
Eduardo galeano
Celebrating the wedding of reason and heart is the basis of our well-being
Certainly time will have shown you that good things can come at any time: at times they come holding our feelings by the hand, while at other times they show up embracing our reason.
For this reason, it is so important not to build walls between logic and emotions, because these two parts of us need each other to understand the world and what is happening around them, and to be able to make decisions.
Our mind is "feeling-thinking", it collaborates with the surrounding environment and tries to coordinate with it in order to create bonds with others and make every relationship satisfying. Nevertheless, it is not always easy to understand how to balance the scales.
A good social brain is one that manages to balance its relationships by following a "feeling-thinking" language, which balances reason and emotion. Neither side of the coin is better or worse than the other, but we need both to exist. Without emotional sensitivity, we could not understand a world built on reason, and vice versa.
Only this balance will allow us to be happy and, at the same time, to produce quality thoughts. After all, love itself is not what we want to hear, but what we feel unwittingly.
Those who fail to understand it may not have been born yet. Because thinking without feeling or feeling without thinking means seeing without seeing, listening without listening, loving without loving and living without living. As you can see, therefore, it is impossible. Just as it would be impossible for a sincere smile to exist without a feeling of true joy.
