Last update: February 01, 2016
How many times has life forced you to say goodbye to someone? In reality, it does not matter how many times you have done this, but it is essential to understand that in the course of our life it is necessary to break more than one bond, even if it can make us suffer.
Saying goodbye means growing up, it allows us to rediscover ourselves when, for one reason or another, someone or something was taking us away from the fundamental values ​​of happiness and balance with ourselves.
I say goodbye because I know that you no longer need me, because I am not your priority, because your voids fill me with deficiencies and because, even if we have never said it out loud, we know well that we have already said goodbye time ago.
Never allow yourself to be weak and run after someone who doesn't need you or already knows where to find you. If you do, you are only hurting yourself; you are damaging your self-esteem and, at the same time, you are giving great power to someone who holds the key to your unhappiness in their hands.
Only you can have that key in your hand, along with the reins of your life, and you must always be aware of what is worth investing time, dreams and hopes for. Saying goodbye is an act of courage, and the greatest manifestation of self-love.
Breaking the bond with those who don't want us takes courage
Maybe things were easier. Maybe there was a magic potion for the disappointments of love, to close the doors of the heart to those who no longer love us and implement the art of forgetfulness, like someone who drops a stone into a river and sees it disappear in depth.
Saying goodbye requires courage, it is an act of personal will to satisfy a vital need. It means closing a circle in which we tell ourselves that we will no longer allow ourselves to suffer, because whoever gives us only absence does not deserve our presence.
But there is no immaculate farewell, which leaves no traces or scars. Saying goodbye often implies having to heal many spaces, heal wounds and pains of our soul that time is not always able to heal. Even if day after day we turn the pages of the calendar, time cannot cure anything if we do not put our own. For this it is worth considering the following aspects.
Say goodbye without hatred
Saying goodbye without resentment, hatred or contempt isn't always easy. The moment we become aware of the fact that someone no longer needs us, who no longer loves us or who is offering us poisoned or painful love, what we feel is a feeling of anger and weakness.
- Take that into consideration all these negative emotions will make it harder for you to close that bond. It is an emotional charge that, in some way, continues to keep you chained to that person.
- Anger, hatred and resentment leave traces in our character and emotions. They make us suspicious, and that anger generates even more negativity against ourselves.
Free yourself from everything, get away from those who do not need you and from any negative emotion that keeps you anchored to those who have hurt you. This will allow you to move forward more lightly. If you continue to collect stones along the way, in the end you will not even be able to walk the path of life. You will be stuck. Break free!
Say goodbye to return to who you were and grow
When we carry on a dysfunctional relationship, which makes us suffer, does not make us see the truth and which, instead of making us grow, undermines our personal balance, what we are actually doing is moving away from ourselves.
Saying goodbye involves embarking on a delicate return journey. You must heal your wounds, take care of yourself and pull the golden thread of your essence, not only to recover the person you were before, but also to create who you want to be starting today.
I want to be a person capable of saying goodbye and letting go, to make room for new things. Better things. I want to be who I was, and even though I am aware that I have now lost part of my innocence, that part of me linked to those I left behind, I know that I am the architect of my future. I know that I will start walking again full of new hope, that I will no longer be a victim, but a person capable of learning from what he has lived to transform himself into what he wants to be.
