Last update: 03 March, 2015
The lack of self-confidence is perhaps the most demotivating feeling we can experience, and the one that makes us the most fragile. Life always tests us in both small and big things, and our days are filled with situations that force us to act and in which only we can decide what we want and what we aspire to. Sometimes it is not easy, it is true, but if we put on the scale all that we have missed due to the lack of confidence in ourselves, we will understand that their weight has brought us more losses than benefits, and that perhaps the time to act.
And everyone, absolutely everyone, is able to improve on this front.
Techniques to improve self-confidence
Think for a moment about the situations that require self-confidence, and that are so decisive in your life. Facing a job interview, reaching that goal we have been thinking about for some time and into which we pour our dreams, find a partner or decide to take the first step towards that person who attracts us, resolve conflicts with other people in our circle, simply have the courage to say aloud what we feel and think ...
As you can see, they are all very important elements for our personal and social development, which are governed by that basic pillar called self-confidence. Being able to reach this condition, to know it and make it our own, requires a series of steps that we must begin to be aware of. Here they are:
1. Transform negativity into positivity
We need to start being aware of situations where our thoughts block us through phrases like "I'll never make it", "I don't have the courage", "I'll do everything wrong, I'm too stupid", "they will laugh at me", "not I'm pretty good ", etc. Why do we always have to dress in negativity? How about you start wearing the armor of the positiveness? It costs nothing to try, just realize what those moments are when negativity blocks us and try to reformulate the thought in another way: "I'm good enough to do it, so I'll try", "I'll make my dreams come true, I can do it ". Achieving self-confidence is entirely up to you.
2. Find out who you are and what you want
Do you really know what you want? And if you know… Why don't you go get it? Identify the actions that can lead you to reach your goals, happiness is a step that can be reached by simply taking a few steps forward. It may take some effort, but simply progressing one step at a time will make you feel much better. Why don't you try it if you already know what motivates you and turns on the light of dreams in you?
3. Be aware of your successes
We have all achieved goals in our lives, we have all achieved successes, and these must serve us to show ourselves that we are capable of doing it. And if we did it once, why shouldn't we do it again? Furthermore, if we recognize that we are capable of doing certain things, we must also start thinking about trying in other areas. Self-confidence is also based on recognizing our abilities and positive aspects, and then applying them in areas where we feel a little more insecure.
4. Don't make comparisons
Never. Don't try to compare yourself to others, and don't take into consideration what others think of you. Be yourself. Each person is unique and different from the others, and this makes us rich. Even if it is true that each of us has positive and other negative sides, we must learn to recognize our individuality, to become stronger and avoid feeling “inferior”.
5. Strive to improve
To improve our self-confidence, we must push our limits day after day, until we feel proud of ourselves. To do this, it is useful to know that it is possible to change to become a little better, to look in the mirror and be able to say: “I'll do it!". Personal overcoming is a path that is followed day after day, with the sole purpose of making us feel better and being able to see ourselves as people capable of achieving the objectives that are proposed.
It's worth a try!
