Last update: June 08, 2015
We were a short story that I will read a thousand times
Bob Marley
We all know what love is, the stages it goes through and what needs to be done to keep it alive. However, what happens in the phase of falling out of love?
Yes, this also happens. People fall in love, but they also fall out of love. The question is why and how. Can it be avoided? Do you always fall out of love with the person you fall in love with?
Let's find out together!
Physical and mental attraction
When you fall in love with someone, you feel attracted to that person. Because suddenly you stop feeling this attraction? Do you "get tired" of your partner?
Attraction is one of the first stages of falling in love that diminishes over time. By now the butterflies in the stomach of when he called you, invited you to go out or you wanted to buy him a gift has vanished. Where is? The body has changed. We are no longer the same. Habit begins to take effect.
The power of habit
They don't like it because it doesn't lead to anything good: boredom and monotony. Before it was all new and now everything is the same. Where is what surprised you? The projects made together have disappeared, there is no spontaneity ...
Fruit of habit is the lack of physical contact: Public displays of affection are suppressed and sweet words have been eliminated from one's vocabulary. There is a routine and this makes you "settle down", but over time there are consequences. Yes, yes tired of your partner and most importantly, you start at see defects that were not noticed before.
Destructive criticism
Why was it perfect in the beginning and not anymore? How come all the flaws suddenly pile up? Were you Czech? This too is another phase of love, when the quality. They get bigger and when, with the passage of time, they see themselves for what they are, they no longer like them.
It starts at getting tired of those behaviors previously tolerated and now you no longer hold back in telling your partner everything you think, without thinking if you are hurting him. The earlier you felt more empathy, the more understanding you were… Suddenly you become a slave to complaints, anger and arguments.
Lack of communication
The comunication it is fundamental in any relationship. It can never fail, otherwise the relationship is lost.
You need to interact with your partner, but be careful! We are talking about talking, not arguing. Exchange desires and emotions, trust each other like before; all this is lost when the attraction diminishes and the defects are noticed. Now you don't see your partner anymore, often you see a stranger.
The fine line of affection
The phrase certainly sounds familiar to you "I don't love him anymore, but I love him". Everything we have said above leads to this sentence. It is at this point that the dividing line between love and affection is perfectly visible.
Despite falling out of love, you appreciate the person with whom you have shared part of your life. There were bad times and good times. It was an important part and you don't see it as something negative, but the love is gone.
As we said before, the force of habit and the passing of the years cause disillusionment, the lack of communication, and all this causes love to turn into mere affection.
Now the big question is: can you avoid falling out of love? It depends. Not all couples manage to preserve their love for a long time, so it is believed that love has an expiration date. Perhaps the affinity that exists and the type of personality of the couple affect the possible duration of love. The mood, the positivity, doing things together and having fun usually helps, but it depends on how you are and how you live the situation.
Does the love of all couples turn into affection? Do you think you can avoid falling out of love? We await your opinions!
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