Last update: May 29, 2016
Have you ever heard that man has never actually set foot on the moon? According to a study carried out by Robert Grimes in the United Kingdom, it is an impossible theory, because if it were true, it would have already come to light, given the very high number of people involved. Yet when it comes to our hearts and the love we can feel, the situation changes. There are not many people involved, there is only our deep and intimate feeling towards someone else that, often out of fear, we do not want to reveal.
Sometimes it is a closed relationship, but the love has remained; other times it happens to see a person again after a long time and to realize that we feel something for her / him; still others, it is a friend who has awakened a deeper feeling in us.
These are situations in which we just say "hello" when in reality we would like to scream "I love you". We would like to hug, kiss, smile, spend time with him or her, enjoy his simple presence, but several reasons prevent us from finding the courage to do so.
“Love is too weak a term. Behold, I tear you away, I love you, we abrade you! "
– Woody Allen, Annie Hall –
Unable to show what we feel
Sometimes we fail to say "I love you" for fear or why we feel stuck. Perhaps our past relationships affect us and have built an armor on us. And there are even more extreme cases, where people are affected by a disorder called alexithymia.
Alexithymia is a neurological disorder that prevents some people from identifying the emotions they feel and expressing them in words. There are different levels of alexithymia. The primary one, which occurs because the neurological structures linked to emotions are damaged; and the secondary one, which occurs as a consequence of severe emotional trauma or due to a delay in emotional learning.
"There is no worse goodbye than what we have never planned."
-swim-
People affected by alexithymia are unable to say "I love you" or "I'm sorry" and feel a deep contempt for themselves, as they are aware of their inability to express what they feel towards other people and, therefore, feel useless.
The importance of showing our feelings
Today's society underestimates the importance of expressing feelings and emotions, but we must always remember that not expressing them can have very negative consequences for people. For this reason, it is important to learn to express what we feel, in all areas of our life.
Many people have been educated from an early age not to express their emotions, not to cry in public because it is a sign of weakness, not to rebel in conflicts to avoid causing problems, etc. In short, they have learned to withdraw into themselves.
But we must not forget that repressed and unmanifested feelings can have various negative effects on our body and mind, such as tension, anxiety, headaches, ulcers, asthma, etc. An unexpressed feeling is a bomb that has to explode somehow and, if we don't get it out, sooner or later it will have repercussions on our life.
Five ways to say I love you
"I love you", "I love you", "Je t'aime", "Te amo" or "Ich liebe dich". Love is a universal feeling and we all feel the need to utter these words at times. However, there is a language in which there is no semantic possibility to say this: Vietnamese. In this language it is not possible to say "I love you" and not because the Vietnamese do not have this feeling, but because they cannot find the words to express it.
Still, there are many different ways of saying "I love you" even without using words. The important thing, in fact, is to show that you love someone, to let the actions speak for us. We therefore propose five ways to say "I love you" without uttering a single word.
1. Conquer it every day
Although it has been a long time since you met, the spark between two people must never go out, there must always be something that reminds the other that we love him. Prepare the coffee and take it to bed, leave a post-it with a sweet phrase when you wake up ... It is not a question of blatant gestures or expensive gifts, but of expressing what we feel.
"I love you without knowing how or when or from where, I love you directly without problems or pride:
so I love you, because I don't know how to love otherwise. "
-Pablo Neruda-
2. Send a good mood
Don't get angry over a trifle, breathe deeply and smile. Take things positively, and convey a good mood to your partner. Joke, mock him, laugh. It is not a question of joking all day, but of seeing everyday things in a different way, with contagious joy.
3. Hug and kiss
How long have you not hugged or kissed your partner? We all need a good hug at the right time, but we can also give it. Give hugs and kisses, say "I love you" with your arms and your lips.
4. Respect each other's spaces
You can say "I love you" to someone even letting them have their own spaces, moments in which to do something just for themselves. Loving someone means having common interests, but also personal spaces that must be respected, in an honest and sincere way.
5. Maintain contact
A "good morning", "how are you?" or a "how did it go today?" they are essential to show our interest and make the other understand that we really care. There is no need to send a thousand messages a day, just let the other know that we are there and that we love him.
