Last update: January 22, 2018
How difficult it is to say goodbye, to leave behind something that made us happy, to abandon certain friends or to conclude some phases of one's life. How much harm it sometimes hurts to know that we have to say a farewell with no return. How it hurts to separate ourselves from something we like, from something we know we don't have to keep holding.
It is necessary, we know, sometimes it is necessary to conclude some phases. We need to change jobs, friendships are lost, the house becomes too small for so many people, children begin to take up all our time, youth greets us from memory… It is difficult, a lot, but it is part of the cycle. We close by saying "goodbye" and open by saying "hello" to the new.
We add chapters to the experience, but we need full stops. We need blank pages to continue writing, the same chapter needs an ending, a closure is needed, but it will have its own continuity, its footprints will be on the next page. It will all make sense when we know why we're done and why we need to. It will make sense when we give it to him.
How difficult it is to say goodbye, but it is good to know that sometimes it is necessary to do so, that once the pain is overcome we will be ready for what is to come. Sometimes the pain of what has been lost is healthier than the pain of continuing.
How difficult it is to say goodbye and face the void that forms
It is difficult to explain, but it is certainly understood because we have all experienced it to some extent. There are goodbyes that are for the bravest, those who leave us a void that we will then struggle to fill. It is difficult to face the unknown, it is hard for us to get out of our safety zone, it is difficult to put an end point, because the idea of ​​having to start over terrifies us..
It remains a void, yes, because the pain of loss is a pain, and by covering it we do nothing but nourish it to make it come out with greater force. We must learn to say goodbye, we must learn to tolerate this emptiness, we must know that it is necessary to close, that it can hurt now, but tomorrow it will no longer be like this.
The magic of saying goodbye is rarely seen the moment we say it, the magic is all in what comes next, in the whole world of possibilities that opens up to us when we start something new, in all that awaits us when we heal wounds. The magic of goodbye is that he usually holds a later greeting by the hand.
If we learn to endure this emptiness, if we don't make it bigger than it should be, if we give it the space it needs, if we allow ourselves to cry if we need it and take a time to heal, we'll be ready for what will arrive. How difficult it is to say goodbye, but in this way we learn to heal and take care of ourselves. Learning to say goodbye means growing up.
It is necessary to say goodbye to advance
We need to say goodbye to continue, we need to close some phases and open new ones. Farewells must be faced because we must venture into the new. The world does not stop and we are part of this world. Fear, our faithful travel companion in life, clings to the known fear of the unknown, but within us there is the strength to overcome it.
If we turn around, we realize how lives change. Not even ourselves, with all that knowledge we treasure, could have said exactly where we are today until a few minutes ago, a few hours, days, months or years. We have achieved our place with our decisions, which also include our decisions to say goodbye.
How hard it is to say goodbye, but we have to learn how to do it. It is not easy to visualize what will come, that "hello" that comes by the hand with goodbye. It's not easy, but it certainly brings something good with it too. It's hard to say goodbye, but the magic of the new is also something surprising for which many goodbyes are worth it.
"They said goodbye and in the farewell there was already a welcome"
-Mario Benedetti-
