Last update: May 17, 2017
Loneliness can be cruel and destructive if we turn it into an enemy, also because the society we live in does not help us to perceive it differently. From an early age we are used to thinking that being alone is negative, a sign that distinguishes the failed from the successful.
If you happen to encounter loneliness in your life, how do you plan to react? Would you stop enjoying life and living it to the fullest just because you don't have anyone by your side?
The solution to this problem lies within us, but often we do not see it because it is necessary to take an important step to succeed: perform actions on our own that, due to inertia, we are used to conceiving as "things to do in company". However, it is above all necessary to get rid of the belief that loneliness is negative, in fact it can be one of the most fulfilling experiences of our life.
“What is loneliness? Loneliness is a re-encounter with oneself and must not be a reason for sadness. It is a moment of reflection. "
Loneliness is a gift
Very often we commit outright nonsense to avoid being alone. We jump from relationship to relationship, we do favors to people so as not to "lose them" even if we really don't want to do it ... In short, there are many actions that we carry out only in order not to let others out of our life, because we do not conceive the possibility of being alone.
Have you ever gone to the movies alone or have dinner at your favorite restaurant without anyone else being with you? How many times have you given up on a program because there was no one to accompany you? If we stop and think about it, we will realize that we often limit ourselves and don't do something we would like just because we don't have other people by our side. This is one of the biggest mistakes we can make.
It is true that it can happen that someone looks at you strange or that some friend or relative tells you that you have some wheels out of place just because you have decided to go to the bar, to the cinema or to the disco alone. This will lead you to listen to them and will feed that erroneous belief that you have not yet been able to get rid of. But if you stay true to yourself, if you don't sacrifice a passion just because you don't have a companion, you will discover a world of possibilities around you.
“The best way to be happy with someone is to learn to be happy alone. Only in this way does the company become a matter of choice and not of necessity. "
-Mario Benedetti-
It is natural to be afraid of rejection, of feeling out of place. But who tells you that in that place you want to go you can't suddenly meet someone else? The important thing is not to go there with that goal, but because you really want to do it. However, anything can happen because, even if you don't believe it, there are people who do things on their own and who enjoy that solitude, without worrying about what others think.
"To love, you have to do an inner work that only solitude makes possible."
-Alejandro Jodorowsky-
Let's not fool ourselves, loneliness hurts because it confronts us with our greatest fears. Still, the pain is always transient, never lasting longer than necessary. Loneliness pushes us to be ourselves, to free ourselves from all those stupid beliefs and norms that until now we considered absolute truths, while it was only handcuffs that held us back.
There is nothing wrong with being alone, much less having fun alone. Pay no attention to those who laugh at you, because you will only fall into the temptation to return to the starting point, the one in which dependence on others oppressed you. If loneliness is present in your lives, don't deny it, don't try to avoid it by surrounding yourself with empty people who bring you nothing. Embrace it, accept it and, above all, enjoy it. Because thanks to it, you will get rich, you will discover yourself and, without a doubt, you will grow.
