How to win back a narcissistic man and put him at your feet?
How to bring back a narcissist who has drifted away?
Have you found out that your ex (or the man you were dating) is a narcissist, but despite the great pain he inflicted on you, have you still decided you want to try to get him back?
There is a way, and in this article we will see precisely how to win back a narcissist, but it will be necessary to accompany everything with a series of necessary additional considerations.
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How to win back a narcissistic man?
We now come to the central point of today's article, namely how to win back a former narcissist.
As I have already explained in this article, the personality of the narcissist and his ways of interacting with others present very particular constants, including:
- Continuous search for control.
- Great need for gratification.
- Total lack of empathy.
While we all need at least sometime in life to feel in control, and to receive forms of gratification from others, for the narcissist these two needs represent real obsessions, who continually move his actions without him realizing it.
The narcissist is a slave to his ego.
The lack of empathy also makes him unable to connect on an emotional level with other people, to put himself in others' shoes, and ultimately to feel sincere and mature love towards someone.
All this leads us to a single solution ...
To be able to involve a narcissist, and win him back if he has left you, you cannot trust that he misses the good times spent with you, nor that giving him more love or demonstrations can change his mind. If you want to win this battle you will have to speak its own language: that of control and handling.
So let's see how to win back a narcissist by counter-manipulating him.
1. Implement the principle of no contact
Like any reconquest path, the path to getting a narcissist back will likely have to start with the no-contact principle. Unlike usual, in this case the period in which you will have to ignore it will have to be a little longer, at least 3 months, for two very specific reasons:
You have to let the love bombing pass. In the first 3 months after the end of your relationship, he will be in full love bombing phase with another partner: this means that he will feel involved in a new person and will be doing everything to make her fall in love with him. In these conditions, your attempts to reconnect with him may be ineffective. For this the best thing you can do is wait for the moment when the narcissus has begun to distance himself from the new partner, and this usually happens after 3 months.
The narcissist always comes back. If you have the patience to ignore him long enough, he will sooner or later come back to you to mark territory, and see if you are still in his power. The return of the narcissist after leaving you is truly a classic, and in English it is called the hoover stage. You can contact him too, but trust me when I tell you that the longer you wait, the higher the chances that he will return.
2. Make some big changes
The period of no contact will serve you to bring about decisive changes in your life, and to create around you that aura of mystery and novelty that attracts narcissists (and others) so much. Here's what I recommend you do:
- Change your look, improving it if possible.
- Incorporate some habits into your life that will make you more interesting.
- Join the gym and improve your fitness.
- Enrich your social life.
- Make progress with your career.
- Post your adventures and progress on social media.
Trust me, even if he broke up with you, he won't be able to help but spy on your moves on social media, because he cherishes the hope of continuing to exercise control over you even when he is no longer with you.
And what makes a narcissist crazy more than seeing you happy, interesting, and launching into new and enjoyable things? Probably nothing. He will immediately feel the fear of having lost all influence which he had obtained with great difficulty against you, and will return to get under his belt to win her back.
3. Give him first and then take control of him
You are about to find out how to put a narcissist at your feet. Hold on tight ...
When you get back to him, don't let him know what your intentions are, and keep an aura of mystery around you. Be nice to him, show no resentment that he left you, and flirt with him lightly to entice him to take action.
If he'll get back to you, even better! Show yourself busy and happy, but leave a door open for him to come back into your life.
In the early stages of your interaction, be condescending, making him feel important, and giving him the impression that he can return to have the same influence he had in the past in your life.
Subsequently he begins to remove this certainty little by little, insinuating in him the seed of doubt and making him question whether he can regain control over you.
And so every now and then don't consider him, devalue him, disappear, don't reply to some message from him, let him know that you might be interested in someone else.
This push and pull it will drive him crazy, it will push him to give you great demonstrations, and to work hard to regain your benevolence as much as possible. At the same time, the narcissist will begin to get involved with you, and want you more every day.
How to get a narcissist back: final thoughts
Now that you know how to win back a narcissistic man, some additional considerations need to be made.
First of all, if you've read my article on how to win back an ex, you will have noticed that the process of winning back a narcissist is largely the same as with any other type of man. With the narcissist it is only necessary to apply some additional precautions to fuel his desire for control.
However I want to warn you ...
If you're really dealing with a narcissist, you need to keep in mind that being able to win him back is definitely not the same as making him fall in love with you.
Sure, you can get him involved in the relationship with you, but his manipulative behavior patterns, aimed at trying to exploit you to gratify his ego, will sooner or later come back and make you suffer.
Then don't say I didn't warn you ?
Well, we've come to the conclusion of our article on how to win back a narcissist. Now you know exactly what to do to put a narcissistic man at your feet, thanks to counter-manipulation.
I hope that you will be able to put to good use the advice I have given you, and in saying goodbye I wish you a big good luck!
