Last update: October 21, 2015
Don't waste time despairing over past mistakes;
learn and move on.
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“I expect less from myself, I expect less from others. I want to make mistakes, without fear, without repenting. What is done is done and if in that moment I decided so, it is because reason and heart told me it was the best choice to make.
I want to be imperfect, not to expect too much from myself and from others, I want to think that we all make mistakes. Today me, tomorrow you and that's it, without rancor and without feelings of guilt inside me that make me feel bad.
I want to be master of my decisions and not always depend on the approval of others. I have to have the last word. Of course, I will listen to the opinions and advice of others, as long as they are given to me in good faith.
But I don't want to deceive myself, because deep down I know what's right for me. Even though they tell me that bungee jumping is the best of experiences, that I should try it and that if I don't, I'm a coward, I won't do it because it's not for me.
I do not want to compare myself to anyone and I do not even want others to compare themselves to me, I do not want to be envious of the successes of others and not even brag about mine. I just want to go my own way, proud of my achievements and also of my mistakes. I no longer want to be perfect neither for myself nor for others, because now I want to make mistakes!
I'll make the decisions I think are right and, if I'm wrong, I'll delete everything and start over. Because this is the game of life, aiming at the target and making mistakes, trying again and making mistakes again ...
I will always try to do things without hurting anyone, but if I am wrong, if I should hurt someone's feelings, I will ask for forgiveness and I will also forgive myself.
Because in the end we are all imperfect, we all make mistakes because to err is human. I don't want to feel pressured anymore and continue to be the perfect baby everyone wanted and praised. Now those who love me will love not only my virtues, but also my many faults.
Others say what I want, I just want to be well and at peace with myself and take a big weight off my shoulders, I'm tired of blaming myself for my mistakes and hearing others throwing them at me all the time.
They can confirm that I have no interest in showing myself as perfect as before! Absolutely no! I want to learn to be a little more indulgent with myself, I know it will be difficult because I have always demanded too much of myself and also of others. However, I'm willing to try, I really, really want to try and that's also why I'm happy today ”.
Some tips for perfectionists:
1. Learn to love and accept yourself. You can be critical of yourself, but without destroying yourself. You learn a lot from mistakes, mistakes are the basis of all our knowledge.
2. If you make a mistake, pay attention to the anxiety it generates in you. Take care of your mind and body. You can do meditation, try relaxation techniques or other activities that help you to disconnect a little. Are you happy to see your loved ones feel bad? So first take care of yourself.
3. When it is said that "only fools never make mistakes" there is a reason. As we have told you on several occasions, you always learn from mistakes. Thanks to mistakes we can improve and grow as people.
4. Look around you: are the others perfect? No. So why should you be? Don't be afraid that others love you less because you have made mistakes. Those who love you love your strengths and weaknesses, get the complete package.
In life
we can make many mistakes,
but one:
what destroys us.
Paulo Coelho
