Last update: Augusts 24, 2016
I want to talk about atoms, about death, about space, about philosophy, about politics, about sex, about travel to Asia, New York or the moon, I want you to tell me all the lies you have told in your life, about what you think while you kiss, I want you to talk to me with emotion.
I don't want you to scold me, tell me what to do, judge me or make me feel guilty. Don't try to manipulate me, don't pretend that you care about me and then disappear as if nothing had happened. I don't want people like that in my life.
I don't want toxic people in my life
Many people come into our lives at different times, some remain and others disappear. Sometimes a person who leaves leaves a void that is difficult to fill because he has given us so many emotions. Other times, when someone disappears from our life, we feel calm and relieved. In this case they are toxic people.
Learning to identify toxic people takes time and experience, as well as a deep knowledge of ourselves that allows us to value ourselves and not to submit to the criticisms of others. But how do you identify a toxic person?
Toxic people are not honest
A toxic person usually attempts to exert some power or play the victim in order to manipulate others. In this way, he is able to do what he wants and that others do what he wants. For this reason, it is important to have high self-esteem, so as to hinder manipulation and prevent this person from changing our emotions.
Toxic people are gossips
A toxic person loves to criticize and talk about others behind their backs, so they will use any story to hurt or harm. We must avoid telling toxic people anything and prevent them from lying or badmouthing us or other people.
Toxic people need constant approval
The need to be loved and accepted is one of the main characteristics of toxic people. They need recognition and continued approval, which is why they create conflicts and are selfish. They think of themselves and never of others.
Positive relationships make us happier and healthier
A study was conducted at Harvard University that analyzed the lives of different people to understand what made them happy and healthy. This research has taken the name of "Development of happiness in adults".
724 people were analyzed, from adolescence to old age, about 75 years old. Year after year, researchers asked them questions about work, family life, health. It was a long study, there were funding problems and many people wanted to quit. 60 people, around 90 years old, are still participating in the study.
After dozens of recorded conversations, analytical studies and brain mapping, the conclusion was clear, as Robert Waldinger (one of the project leaders) argues: positive relationships make us happier and healthier.
I want people who give me emotions
I like people who give me energy, who trust me, who support me in my decisions and don't judge me, who show me the bright side of things, who give me courage when I'm down in the dumps and give me enthusiasm.
I like people who convey to me their emotion for the things they do, for life, who are passionate, who laugh and cry. The kind of people with whom, after a few minutes of conversation, to conquer the world and do a million things.
A person with positive energy smiles at life, is where he should be at all times, knows how to take care of his body and his mind, has learned to relativize problems and to draw a lesson from mistakes, gives joy and love to others, knows how to enjoy moments of solitude, he knows how to seize opportunities. I like people like this.
