Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: 15 November 2021
Albert Einstein said that darkness does not really exist. He claimed that darkness is nothing more than the absence of light, which happens on several occasions to many of the people around us.
We don't know why, but we all have friends or family members who, when faced with any complicated situation, only know how to cause more negativity. They are unable to provide strategies, solutions and, even less, support.
Everyone also knows that these people don't usually abound. Friends and family in this way can be counted on the fingers of one hand and for this reason, we must somehow protect ourselves from those who can paint our days only in gray, as well as our hopes and uncertainties.
We invite you to reflect on this with us, further suggesting that if you are among the people who enjoy their own light, you must never stop shining.
People with their own light: lighthouse of our days
What is really meant by "person with his own light"? Are we perhaps falling on a spiritual rather than a psychological level? It is not that complicated to define them and even less to recognize them.
There are many psychological traits easily identifiable in these profiles, certainly not talking about magic. They are common people who wear everyday smiles, which always have the right words based on the moment.
They are not people who practice this arbitrary positivism by giving everyone a "don't worry, everything will be fine". Absolutely no.
- They know how to establish closeness, because they have great empathy and great inner balance. They are positive, but it is a practical attitude based on strategy and balance.
- They know when someone needs them and they also know how to leave their spaces. They don't demand, they don't ask for anything in return.
- When you are in their company, you are free to be yourself. Without pressure, without having to dissemble and even less justify oneself.
- They are people who offer light because they comfort and, although they do not give the solution to our problems, we still do not feel the need to ask them. We just need them to "stay with us", without judging us, without criticizing, without despising.
If you are the one offering light to others, never stop shining
You are probably creatures of light yourself. Enlighten others every day by wishing the best, and do it selflessly, why do you feel good this way; because that's how you understand life and why you wouldn't know how to do it any other way.
If your way of being and feeling life is to provide support to those around you, know that thanks to this simpler and more humble point of view, you will shine with your own light.
However, Sometimes it is even possible to feel exhausted.
- It is easy to see the light in the blizzard, but sometimes those at your side may mock you for it. They can call you naive, they can make fun of your nobility by labeling you as weak, they can tell you that you are the typical person who takes advantage of others.
- Remember once again what was said at the beginning, referring to Einstein's phrase: darkness does not exist, in reality and there is no light. We could therefore say that there is no real evil in these people who make the mistake of attacking your way of being.
- Instead of meanness, or darkness, there is an absence of emotional intelligence, understanding, empathy and personal strategies.
-If you shine with your own light, don't let others turn it off. Don't even waste all your energy on those who don't deserve it.
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