Last update: April 09, 2018
How many times have you known what you were capable of, but found yourself unable to complete it? On many occasions you lack that drive that keeps you from getting stuck and enduring a situation in which you don't feel comfortable. Ignoring one's own feelings, not finding the emotional charge from which the energy necessary to advance is emanated prevents us from realizing what we feel we have to do.
Maybe it happens not only in the professional sphere, but also in the family one. For example, if you are aware that your partner is now just a friend, but you don't really feel it, you will maintain this relationship for years, until the situation itself forces both of you to break up.
The question you may be asking yourself is: why is this happening to me? Emotions are very important in deciding and choosing which path to follow. Although you know what you should do, you may not be able to because your emotions are not cooperating: it may be your fears, beliefs and insecurities that are pulling you back.
Ignoring your feelings does not allow you to set limits
While you know that your boss is not offering you the working conditions you deserve, even though you are aware that you would like to leave your partner because you are no longer comfortable together, it is useless if you opt to ignore what it feels like. You will stagnate in the same situation, without taking this necessary step to achieve life that you would like to have.
On many occasions we feel connected, as if a destiny already written pushed us to live certain experiences without being able to do anything. The big problem lies precisely in this. With one decision, the course of events, and the associated inertia, can make a 180 degree turn.
We can see this very well with the examples we have described above. Why put up with this boss who doesn't treat us well? Why keep a relationship drifting? We should direct all these questions to more fundamental ones. What is it that scares me? What am I trying to avoid?
The limits in our relationships (work, family, couple ...) are necessary. Without them, each and every one of these relationships is doomed to failure.
The most likely thing is that you feel a lot of insecurity, which weakens our determination to invest our energies to find another job or a great fear of not finding another partner. Fears, addiction to this feeling of security that produces attachment and the harmful conduct of staying in our comfort zone lead us to ignore the situation and prevent us from listening to what we feel to find the necessary impulse and change our own. situation.
Emotions are our engine
Emotions are like our engine to get going. We can certainly remember at least once when we acted without thinking. In these moments we have not even set ourselves the problem of elaborating in depth what we had to do. Our body moved for this, took the initiative, without thinking whether it would go well or badly. He had the courage to do it, full stop.
However, we tend to prioritize ours pensieri, appeasing what we feel and not giving it the importance that they actually have as a driving force. We usually silence our feelings, making a great effort not to let them show on the outside, showing ourselves as we are; rather, we opt to act in accordance with beliefs and role models.
It is necessary to learn to manage our emotions, listen to them, take them into consideration and express them. THEbalance between reason and emotion is the key to making right decisions. Even to be able to face certain fears that are only the result of beliefs instilled in the mind. The mind may be wrong, but emotions usually speak very clearly.
If you know what you need to do, but are unable to complete it because you ignore it, it is time to start making an effort to change all of this. It is not easy to change certain patterns of conduct repeated for an extended period of time. However, with help and willpower on your part, you can achieve wonderful results.
