Last update: February 16, 2017
Frustration is a universal emotion that we all live. Like other negative emotions, such as fear or sadness, it is necessary, as it indicates that something is wrong and that it needs to be changed. Like the rest of emotions, it can also lead us to behave aggressively.
However, within the emotional state of frustration, it is necessary to identify the degree of intensity with which it manifests itself and the way in which it is regulated. Some people feel disproportionate frustration compared to what triggers it, they also respond exaggeratedly, with outbursts of anger and aggression: they suffer from the so-called intermittent explosive disorder.
What is Intermittent Explosive Disorder
It is a disorder in which impulse control and emotional regulation are compromised. We can also say that it is characterized by two fundamental factors:
- The person affected by this disorder experiences recurring episodes in which he presents outbursts of anger. States in which it shows lack of control and aggression, with a threatening attitude that manifests itself through shouting and, often, physical damage to objects around and even to animals or people. It is not a question of single episodes, but of an uncontrolled emotional state that recurs over time.
- These episodes of anger are not proportional to the cause that triggers them. Usually they are provoked by a situation that the subject interprets as negative, but that other people would easily manage, with a little discussion: a job not done well, a criticism from a work colleague ... In some cases the cause can even being imaginary, like, for example, feeling attacked in an argument when, in reality, no attack occurs, or being dependent on unmotivated jealousy. These are all "reasons" that trigger strong aggression.
Intermittent Explosive Disorder is a hindrance
Failing to manage anger has devastating consequences in the lives of those with this disorder and those around them controlling aggressive impulses is essential for living in society.
Most people with this condition have problems having interpersonal relationships, whether they are family, couple or friendship. Living next to a person with this disorder means being in a perennial state of tension: it is not possible to predict when it will explode, a condition that leads people to leave for fear of anger attacks and their consequences.
This disorder also affects the working life of those affected. Since the person does not know how to control or prevent outbursts of anger, certain frustrating situations that everyone experiences in the workplace, such as discussions with colleagues or criticism from superiors, sooner or later end up triggering a crisis. This situation creates a tense atmosphere and possible dismissal if frequent.
Why do some people have outbursts of aggression?
Some studies indicate that outbursts of aggression are the result of a serotonin deficiency in the brain, as well as lesions in the prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex is exactly the part of the brain related to impulse control and the one that is in charge of higher thinking.
Although this suggests biological causes, another aspect to point out is that most people with this syndrome have lived in environments in which one or more people exhibited outbursts of anger. This leads us to think that, in addition to a biological predisposition, having learned how to manage emotions as a child also plays a very important role.
If a child grows up perceiving immeasurable anger and violence as valid tools to achieve goals, it is to be expected that these behaviors will be maintained over time. and supported by the past. Children need to be present with healthy examples of conflict resolution and frustration management in which patience and dialogue stand out.
It is equally important to help children understand their frustration and how to manage it, especially if they have a tendency to complain by having a tantrum, even with professional help if necessary. This way, we will save these little ones from many future problems.
Intermittent explosive disorder can be treated
It is never too late to learn more about our emotions and how to manage them. Through cognitive-behavioral therapy, it is possible to lead these people to identify the first signs of a tantrum and, thus, stop it before it grows and causes serious damage. To hold them back, they are given several alternatives, such as getting out of the situation that is causing the sense of frustration. This exit can be mental (diverting one's attention) or physical.
Relaxation techniques are also helpful, which reduce the general state of anxiety and try to decrease the general activation tone by channeling energy through the practice of some sport, for example. In some cases, certain drugs that regulate serotonin production may also be helpful.
The important thing is that, by becoming aware of the problem and seeking help, we can learn to manage anger and improve our lives and that of those around us. This applies to people with a disease, but also to all of us in extraordinary situations.
"When I walked through the door walking towards the gate that would lead me to freedom, I knew that if I didn't leave the bitterness and hatred behind me, I would still be in prison"
Do you know anyone who suffers from this disorder or who you think may be suffering from it? How does this affect your daily life?
