Last update: 01 September, 2016
We can feel sad or broken from time to time. It is not necessary to always be the cheerful people that everyone expects, nor the ones who smile all the time and want to talk to others.
We have the right to let our hearts cry until it is dry. It is human and it is real. If not, would obey the tyranny of excessive optimism, emotional repression, withdrawn into oneself, the seizure of life.
Embrace life, be aware that negative emotions don't have to be unhealthy. That sadness, anger and frustration help us to walk, to face what hurts us, to search for the meaning of reality.
The importance of valuing life
What has been written so far defines life, normality. Not everything is pink and flowers, not everything makes us feel beautiful and preserves the smile on our face. It is important to emphasize this aspect, to educate our thoughts and behaviors along with our emotions.
Those days when we can't get out of bed, when everything seems huge to us and it seems that the road we have taken is beginning to sink, those days are the best to reflect and not get discouraged, to prevent our demons from growing.
It is essential to realize that being sad is our right and part of life. A phase of those "micro pains" necessary to process and recompose the world as we please. Manifestations that, on the other hand, make us understand that we are alive, that we continue to exist or that something is changing.
Thus, the psychological depth that characterizes bad moments manifests itself with changes in thinking, emotions and behaviors. The ability to get rid of some of the burden that oppresses us will depend on how we manage that malaise, in other words on the permission we give ourselves.
In this sense, a good metaphor is the moulting of snakes. When a snake has to shed its old skin, it chooses to move between two nearby stones that hold it, rub it and help it shed the skin. This movement causes him pain, but it helps him to get rid of the old to make room for the new.
It is the end of a process and the beginning of a new one. And in this transition one inevitably suffers. If we are reluctant to face the change, anxiety will increase, but we will not be able to free what no longer gives us, what we need, we will not be able to give space to what wants to be born. Liberation, therefore, depends on the lesson underlying this rupture.
Feeling our soul breaking makes us reflect on aspects that we did not even dwell on before. This is a great benefit, but we can only appreciate it if we embrace the presence of the "demons" who torment us day after day because of the wrong concept we have of them.
It is curious how we undress when it is colder, how we get rid of our clothes in the search for a happiness that never comes because we have a wrong concept of it.. We live in extremes, because we only indulge in burning fire or intense cold. And this is where the problem lies.
If we embrace our emotions and sustain them through our thoughts and behaviors, we will make a decision that will be the foundation of our growth throughout life. What decision? That of respecting ourselves, of learning from ourselves and of continuing to walk with the right shoes whatever the path to take.
