Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: 15 November 2021
Just for today, allow yourself to feel life with the same hope as a child. Just for today, turn off the noise of pressures, fears, obligations and keep the buzz of toxic environments. Do it, get some air, breathe deeply, close your eyes and ... have confidence. Imagine for a second that what you are waiting for is coming. Allow yourself to be confident and make your dreams come true.
They say dreaming is free, but let's face it there comes a time when the mind gets tired of wandering around remote islets, for worlds glazed with happiness and in which goals are conquered as if by magic. Little by little we lose hope of the value of dreams, because reality is sometimes hard, it is acid like lemon, dark like that coffee we drink in the morning to wake up as soon as possible from our sleep at night.
We could say, almost without fear of making a mistake, that in the end it happens: we stop dreaming as before, we stop asking wishes from the fleeting stars, because we take on a heavy baggage of frustrated goals, of harsh disappointments that, unwittingly, have shaped almost completely our heart and extinguished that flame that, once, who made believe that it was all possible.
However, and this should be borne in mind, a characteristic that has always defined the human being is his inexhaustible ability to dream, to wander through impossible hypotheses, to fantasize about different variables of reality to the point of delineating a treasure map that stimulates him to continue; which represents the fuse that ignites motivation and gives strength and courage to continue in an endless struggle, where those who are discouraged and stop dreaming are left behind ...
Close your eyes for your dreams to come true ... then, open them to build your reality
Let's visualize for a moment that person who got tired of dreaming. Let's give her a face. Far from seeing her attitude as admirable, it is necessary to delve into everything that lies behind it. Because whoever does not dream, whoever does not project her desires or does not allow himself to relativize her reality by endowing it with alternative desires and paths has simply lost hope. And nothing is more devastating.
Perhaps they convinced her by telling her that happiness was little more than a promise to wait in a corner. Perhaps you have read thousands of books on the most radical branch of positive psychology that often praises the law of attraction. Well, it must be said that nowadays there is a movement that would perhaps be of great help to the person we have visualized and to whom we have probably given a name.
Happiness, in large part, passes from knowing correctly manage negative emotions and disappointments from which to emerge and tolerate frustrations. In this sense, great efforts are often not rewarded with results of the same magnitude; What's more, sometimes they are not rewarded at all. Life is often fallible and not very consistent and we can not help but accept it.
Henriette Anne Klauser is one of the best known writers in terms of personal growth, which provides strategies for thinking and empowering one's creativity. Thus, in one of her texts, she invites us to dreaming with your eyes closed and then writing down those wishes.
It would actually be about writing a viable script with small short and long term goals in order to create a plan. Once elaborated, the bravest step would be missing: open your eyes and fight for them.
It's time to reclaim the dreams left behind
Let's do it, close our eyes for a moment and go back to the person we were yesterday. A person with more enthusiasm, more confident and perhaps less experienced. It was the period in which the future presented itself to us as a field fertilized with the stars; it was enough to grasp one to believe that everything was possible. Later, however, the disappointments and the one-way street arrived in which prejudices, fears and insecurities told us "don't do it, don't dream, otherwise you will suffer":
Randy Pausch, a well-known science professor and famous for giving a masterful lecture on life and death, said that There always comes a time when you have to decide whether to be a brave person or a coward, if your heart still holds enough hope to fight for what you want and if you feel truly deserving of getting what you dream of. If all the answers are positive, there is no other option but to move towards it.
Finally, it is our duty to reclaim that enthusiastic child we were yesterday, that version of ourselves that we abandoned along the way out of fear or because we made the unforgivable mistake of underestimating ourselves. Let us therefore recover the light of yesterday's innocence to combine it with the cunning and vital experience we have acquired in the present. We close our eyes and imagine that the impossible becomes possible, that what we so desire arrives ... We also dream of having enough courage to fight for what we desire.
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