Intuition can help us understand who we can trust or not. Even so, it is possible to guess the nature of a person on the basis of some aspects.
Last update: April 23, 2022
The years may have given us a sixth sense that works almost like a metal detector. He warns us immediately to let us know when to be wary of someone.
It is true that experience makes us wise and that it offers us valuable lessons to understand who deserves to be our friend and who, on the other hand, should be avoided.
However, sometimes this filter fails and we let the less suitable person pass through the doors of our heart, who leaves everything in disorder and robs us of the most precious thing that the human being can give: trust. Sometimes we get more than one disappointment, however, in an already chaotic world it is important to continue to cultivate meaningful and fulfilling social bonds.
Let's not give up, because good people exist and are our pillars every day. It is therefore extremely useful to know the psychological dynamics that can reveal us when a person is not sincere.
A series of traits, behaviors and dimensions indicate which figures not to include in our life. We see them in the following lines.
In this life, one must not be chronically suspicious. Building fulfilling bonds translates into happiness. However, it is advisable to be cautious about giving your affection.
Aspects to consider in order to understand when to be wary of someone
Nobody wears a sign around their neck that warns them not to be trusted. In addition to this, the person in question is not aware that his friendship, his relationship and his affection are conditioned.
These are men and women characterized by selfishness, who understand social ties as dimensions from which to benefit; moreover, they usually have a somewhat positive view of themselves.
This makes them fully convincing, which is why they easily enter our lives. They are friendly, captivating, it is almost always easy to deal with them and no one could guess that behind them there are interests or that they can betray us in the least.
To understand when to be wary of someone, it is important not to take everything for granted, but rather it is worth bearing in mind that appearances can be deceiving at times.
It's easy to know when to be wary of someone if ...
He talks too much about himself
We all know people with a particular inclination to talk about one topic: themselves. Everyone has the right to share anecdotes, thoughts, dreams, past and present experiences with others. However, it is impossible to build a meaningful bond if you don't leave room for others.
Beware of those who don't ask us how our day went; let us move away from those who do not remember what we tell them, to those who do not give importance to our worries, experiences, emotions.
Consider ending the relationship when you become visible to the other person's eyes only when they have to ask you something.
It says the opposite of what it does
To understand when to be wary of someone, Observe what it says, what values ​​it defends when you speak, what it expresses and says about itself. In this society, false personalities abound, that is, those who do the opposite of what they claim.
They are individuals who sell their incredible kindness, who pride themselves on everything they have done for their friends and family; yet, when you need them, they are never there.
Love, admire ... But he only knows how to ask
Every friendship, like every relationship, is also built through that reciprocity in which we give and receive in equal parts. There is balance, nothing is missing and every act is nourishing because there is no room for selfishness and blackmail.
Some people only know how to ask, every day and in the most sophisticated ways. They use expressions like "You know how much I love you and that's why I ask you, you are the person I trust the most". When these blackmail dynamics become a constant, it is good to urgently rethink the relationship.
“Trusting everyone is foolish; but not trusting anyone is neurotic clumsiness. "
Constantly criticizes others
To understand when to be wary of someone, keep the critical factor in mind. There are people who are adept at destructive criticism and at making us accomplices. They tell us what others are doing, belittle colleagues, complain about friends, neighbors and relatives.
The study conducted at the University of Michigan-Dearborn indicates that personalities who use destructive criticism of others show very weak interpersonal relationships. They are not reliable and most likely they also criticize us behind our backs.
How to know when to be wary of someone: evaluate how they make us feel
It is always important to evaluate how the person we have just met makes us feel. There are those who make us feel at home from the first moment.
However, there are other figures with which it is a continuous ups and downs. Today they seem close and kind, tomorrow they show distance. Today they need us, tomorrow they won't even answer our messages.
Consistency in character and the emotional connection that confers calm and confidence is another variable that should be taken into consideration. As is often said, trust must be earned and this takes time and work.
Be cautious, but never lose hope: sincere people exist and make life more beautiful when we find them.
